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mtaha2015
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rockit checking girls out won't go away completely ever , but it will get lesser and lesser with time.
I don't know what to say.
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adrian
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I don't really think that checking girls out is a problem, considering the fact that is a natural part of us. Try and imagine where would our species be if the cave man did not check girls out in order to impregnate her.
Do not feel guilty about this, as I consider it to be a natural part of our material selves. You can keep it under control, ofcourse, but do not feel guilty! Guilt is a very bad feeling and it infects your being.
Stay strong and positive!
Do not feel guilty about this, as I consider it to be a natural part of our material selves. You can keep it under control, ofcourse, but do not feel guilty! Guilt is a very bad feeling and it infects your being.
Stay strong and positive!
Yeah I would say if you're not being creepy about it, it's fine. I have this battle too (among many others in the last month). We will always "check out" whoever we find attractive. I do, you do it, your girl does it, my wife, everyone. I decided that if I can see a pretty lady and say "wow, she's cute", or whatever, and then dismiss it and move on, that's a way more normal thought pattern than holding on to it all day so I can beat off to it later. It's all good, rockit, keep going strong bud.
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fightforlife
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Checking out girls is something almost unavoidable.
But do it consciously. If you don?t, your sex drive will take over and fantasies will pop up in your head like a browser ad.
Don?t look like: "Man, has she got a nice rack."
Look at a woman like: "What a beautiful face this lady has."
There?s a difference:
Admiring beauty is inspiring and joyful.
Gawping is dirty, shameful and wrong.
So as long as you don?t stare at their curves, it?s alright. I know, it?s hard sometimes, but it?s just the level of self-control one should possess.
And obviously: Don?t look at other women when you are with your girlfriend.
That?s wrong and respectless and you should feel guilty for it.
But if you?re on your own, it?s just a natural thing. And it?s ok as long as you don?t objectify.
Well, that is my opinion at least.
You?re doing great!
Stay on track!
But do it consciously. If you don?t, your sex drive will take over and fantasies will pop up in your head like a browser ad.
Don?t look like: "Man, has she got a nice rack."
Look at a woman like: "What a beautiful face this lady has."
There?s a difference:
Admiring beauty is inspiring and joyful.
Gawping is dirty, shameful and wrong.
So as long as you don?t stare at their curves, it?s alright. I know, it?s hard sometimes, but it?s just the level of self-control one should possess.
And obviously: Don?t look at other women when you are with your girlfriend.
That?s wrong and respectless and you should feel guilty for it.
But if you?re on your own, it?s just a natural thing. And it?s ok as long as you don?t objectify.
Well, that is my opinion at least.
You?re doing great!
Stay on track!
Wow, these urges have been crazy strong lately. Fantasizing is so powerful it has been almost impossible to stop. It is easier during the day, but at night it is overwhelming. Still have been porn and masturbation free for 36 days, but I just don't see how this problem will be fixed. It is one thing to admire someone for their beauty, while it is another to imagine what it would be like to sleep with them.
Gotta keep going. Hopefully this will get easier.
Gotta keep going. Hopefully this will get easier.
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fightforlife
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I suppose those urges need to be dried out.
Just give it more time, be patient.
You know, it?s all a rollercoaster and the situation is soon to change again.
Just give it more time, be patient.
You know, it?s all a rollercoaster and the situation is soon to change again.
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mtaha2015
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fight is right. let them go and pass away.
these BS waves of urges will suck your blood, if you fail to them.
these BS waves of urges will suck your blood, if you fail to them.
You're both right. My brain kept telling me today just to give in. It would be easier.
I went to sleep and when I woke up, I remembered how I felt earlier and it just made me sad. This is going to be a constant battle. I need to go one day at a time.
That being said, I have slacked on my cold showers and my meditation after the initial 30-day challenge. It is the journey I have to focus on here. One month of no porn and no masturbation. I can't believe it. Gotta keep going.
I went to sleep and when I woke up, I remembered how I felt earlier and it just made me sad. This is going to be a constant battle. I need to go one day at a time.
That being said, I have slacked on my cold showers and my meditation after the initial 30-day challenge. It is the journey I have to focus on here. One month of no porn and no masturbation. I can't believe it. Gotta keep going.
Just remembered something. I had a dream the other day that I got off and completely forgot about the NoFap. I freaked out and felt awful. But it never happened. It had been a dream. No orgasm or anything. It was weird. I've been having more dreams/nightmares about things that have been stressing me out.
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mtaha2015
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rockit 40 days is a big accomplishment. you can celebrate this milestone.
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mtaha2015
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yeah that is true. but you need to celebrate this miles stone too. stay strong. keep going. congrats on 40 days.
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fightforlife
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40 days, awesome!
Keep on being an awesome example of what can be accomplished if one fights for it!
Keep on being an awesome example of what can be accomplished if one fights for it!
sodonewithit
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Great thread, I started the day before so that timer is basicly the same as mine. Keep at it rockit, it feels so good to be getti g closer to the stud which our caveman forefathers expected us to be.
Exactly! I had an epiphany last night which really helped me re-focus. I'm going to try keeping a mindset of CHOOSING to stop fantasizing. My girlfriend and I were having sex, my mind to wander, and I told myself: "No! She doesn't deserve that! This is a beautiful woman, you love her, and you know very well that this is all you need. Give her respect! Respect yourself! No porn! No fantasies! I choose to feel good because of our connection, not because of where my mind will wander. I will enjoy this because of what it is, which is wonderful! You know you love her, and love this, and that is all that matters!"
...I mean, none of that was word for word. I didn't stop to write it down. But hopefully you get the point.
Being mindful of what I want to accomplish is going to be key, methinks.
...I mean, none of that was word for word. I didn't stop to write it down. But hopefully you get the point.
Being mindful of what I want to accomplish is going to be key, methinks.
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fightforlife
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You just hit 6 weeks. You?re going mad on this! 
Awesome!
Awesome!
52 days. New record.
T'was a perfect storm tonight. I just wasn't mentally strong enough to stop it for some reason. Whole process of wanting to, and actually doing it lasted over an hour. Didn't want to message anyone or try and stop myself from eventually doing it. Not sure why.
Really confused tonight. I know I've made serious strides in what I wanted to fix. But even so.
I'll evaluate and reflect this weekend.
T'was a perfect storm tonight. I just wasn't mentally strong enough to stop it for some reason. Whole process of wanting to, and actually doing it lasted over an hour. Didn't want to message anyone or try and stop myself from eventually doing it. Not sure why.
Really confused tonight. I know I've made serious strides in what I wanted to fix. But even so.
I'll evaluate and reflect this weekend.