Haven't posted in awhile. But I'm still having trouble with the PIDE (no, I'm not dyslexic. That stands for "Porn Induced Delayed Ejaculation').
When my wife and I have sex, I can get it up fairly regularly. However, I can't seem to finish. Part of the problem is that I've conditioned myself to ejaculate to imagery (due to the porn or porn fantasies). As a result, I need some kind of fantasy to get me to the Point of No Return. Once I'm there, I can shift back into reality and ride the wave to orgasm.
But right now, when I try to come, I can't. None of the old triggers work anymore (which is not a bad thing). I recognize this as being part of the infamous "Flatline" (that in-between phase where, as your brain is rewiring itself, nothing seems to trigger). I'm also aware I'm trying too hard. There will be times I'll try to force it, and just go limp inside her.
Today, as we were getting it on, I could feel the pressure building. So I went into my head to trigger the Point of No Return out of habit. When I realized what was happening, I tried to shift back to the Present, but it was too late. The Little Monk had retreated into his Wilt of Shame.
On the plus side, I haven't so much as looked at any old vices. It's tough, because there's always some internet article about "so-and-so celeb's bikini selfie" or "such-and-such's sexy lingerie shoot". I don't even click on them anymore. There was also a fetish site I used to frequent occasionally (side note: "frequent occasionally" seems like an oxymoron) that I haven't touched in close to a month.
I'm determined to beat this permanently. And it WILL happen. Just need patience and time (both of which always seem in short supply).
Monk