Hello again, Rainie!
Well, older studies do not make me believe this article is that right; it is moderately clear that men's brain are one way and women's are another, for this reason, studies show that homossexual people even tend to have a brain similar to the opposite sex... so how is that article so right?
If it is, I wonder why such groundbreaking study was not taken to a relevant spot like Science or Nature instead of staying within her university.
Anyway, undoubtedly, the environment plays a huge whole in everybody's life and it obviously can deeply motivate people to betray others, but there is one thing: every human behavior is based on a result of biological facts ? like genes, hormones, brains ? + environmental factors; so still, if the environment is motivating men's brain to be like that in the last thousands and thousands of years, that's how it should be; if that could've been different, we would have several examples of different societies working like you wish.
If you consider "testosterone" a stronger hormone, you automatically accept it as prone to look for variety in sex; otherwise, you are basically saying that the 2 nuclear bombs Japan got had the potential to destroy the country, but the bombs should have destroyed a single home each, like 2 dynamites. It is like saying the potential of gravity should take you to the floor like a feather in case you jump from a building... None of the two things I said make sense, do they? Well, that's how things work.
It's simple like that: people get extremely used to what they have available all the time... then you might say: "WELL, WHY IT ISN'T LIKE THAT WHEN IT COME TO DRUGS?"
Well, it is like that: the drugs get less effective and they start to take more to compensate ? or even take stronger drugs.
Humans in general are made monogamous, they are not born like that; obviously, cultural and hormonal factors make women much less prone to be like that, but you probably already know that as soon as society gets a little less strict our 15 years old daughters end up in a bed with 3 guys at the same time and then are bullied until they commit suicide. It is sad, but extremely true.
Anyway, I not telling you that men should betray or anything like that, I just want you to have one thing in mind:
Your husband may like pornography, but he loves you and even thought he watch some shit, you should be happy because he is doing anything but watching; millions of women are betrayed everyday by men that do not see a single difference between a Playboy and a real life orgy.
At the end, you are a lucky woman unhappy because of a foolish thing, like an teenager saying "I hate my parents" because they couldn't get a video game.
My BIL is very similar and makes rude comments. I have no problems with calling him out on it so his daughter and son know that this behavior is adolescent and not acceptable to some people. Sometimes men get the impression that this behavior is perfectly normal because of the 'vocal minority' and good men/women who feel they can't step up and tell them their behavior sucks. 'boys will be boys' and all that.....
