Updating as my thoughts are pretty clear right now...
Yesterday I took a hell of a beating, but even though I was down for count, I got back up on my legs. That is worth a lot today. had I given in, and gone all the way, today would be really bad. Although yesterday is nothing to celebrate, the learning and the pride in not surrendering are weapons I can use today.
Thinking in a more egoistic way today, and that helps. I am not doing this for women, or for a woman, I am not doing this for sex. I am simply doing this for me, and to be in control of my life. whatever I do later is not clear now, nor does it need to.
Celebrating the small victories. It might be normal for someone else to not jack off to porn if you have 5 minutes to spend but for me, resisting that urge is a triumph. And I will celebrate and savor those moments more. It is too easy to only fuel on negative energy in all of this.
Not thinking long term. Thinking about life without ever seeing that nude model again triggers all these feelings of loss (stupip, I know, but that's how I work now). Thinking of not seeing that image today is OK and I can handle that. No loss, no big deal.
Reading success stories here is a great inspiration.
I need to start some sort of mental exercise. meditation or prayer (not religious, so not sure what distant God would answer me there). However, I need some sort of mental stimuli that is positive, not only resisting an urge and breaking down bad habits.
Not relying on willpower when the urges come, but rather take action. Cold shower, walk, make a phone call, whatever, but DOING is the tool, not thinking about not doing it.