malando said:
Thankyou so much, Boo.
I've been quite concerned whether I'm still welcome on the forum. I have been worried maybe the religious guys are washing their hands of me after my comments. Even though I tried to point out that several of my friends here on the forum who are religious (Boo, Chip, RJ and others) post in a way that I enjoy and find interesting and inclusive, it seems I have incurred the ire of some of these friends. Maybe I need to take a step back. This place needs to be a supportive brotherhood. If I'm the only one who perceives exclusion from certain posts, or if I'm disturbing the brotherhood maybe I'm the one who has to go (well at the very least, I need to keep silent when I feel the way I did about those posts).
I want to say though that I have tried very hard to help people here on the forum in my short time here. I don't want to have to go because this place has been a lifeline for me in getting off P and feeling some understanding from my friends here. If anybody here is uncomfortable with my presence here on the forum, feel free to post here or PM me and I'll do my best to explain my position since not many people seem to understand it - particularly the religious guys.
My goal was never to offend others' beliefs.
Regarding my progress: yes it's very encouraging. I don't want to claim to be cured at this stage. I'm conscious that I could be experiencing a false dawn - and that future challenges could come my way that test or weaken my resolve. I must remain vigilant. Your "no MO in June" challenge was a great idea that I instantly knew I wanted to challenge myself with. I consider what's happened so far to be a very promising start and a small window into the rewards that await me if I can give up P for good. I'm embracing pain and withdrawal as the price of recovery.
Regards,
M.
Malando, in regards to your posts- I've only seen encouragement, wisdom, and understanding. I personally would be so remiss if you quit the forum, or ceased posting.
It's perhaps no secret that I'm of a
religious bent (I would like to say, 'spiritual'), as my posts here often reflect. But those who know me (or at least understand my angle here) is that I have only one direction equally toward believers and non-believers, and that is acceptance, love and inclusion. To me, there's no difference fundamentally (no pun intended).
Reboot Nation actually was an offshoot originally from
Your Brain on Porn (YBR), which is a much bigger forum. But a lot of folks there were at war with each other, believers versus non-believers, or those of various sexual orientations fighting each other. So, some guys, Gabe Deem, lte, etc (someone correct me if I'm wrong), split off to start a forum that would put all those differences aside, and just focus on rebooting.
So, not sure of the conversations in question, if some self-righteous
holier-than-thou had some off words with you, please disregard. I know that's easier said than done for folk like us, who are very sensitive in an already highly sensitive forum- but, please don't take their words as any kind of temperature of the whole of RN. All us believers aren't like that. In fact, for most of the believers I'm aware of here, most are very compassionate and tolerable toward those not like themselves.
Hope that somewhat offsets whatever negative experience you may have had.