So wasn't going to post today, but reading happysad's journal made me think and I thought I'd jot down my thoughts. I am constantly looking for validation of my life. I'd read before that the best way to attract girls was to give them the impression you're not interested. But in my experience that never worked either. Now I realise, it's not about giving the impression that you're not interested in sex but rather that you don't need validation of any kind. For example, when I talk about the ideas I'm interested in, I present them in a way that seeks validation. These ideas can be as interesting as anything, but because I seek validation for having them, it's a turn off. I don't just seek validation from girls, I seek validation from everyone. It's my whole way of being. I think I developed this personality trait before I discovered porn, but the years of porn use and failing in my attempts to control it only made it worse. In a way, even me posting this is me seeking validation, but then that's what this forum is for I guess. Thank you.