LetItGoAlready
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Well said, LTE. Good or bad, we live in a world where racy images can pop up anywhere and at any time. I no longer intentionally seek these images out, but sometimes the images will find me even when I'm not looking for them. They may be buried in a random collection of images searched online or they may come in the form of an advertisement in a magaine or on the side of a bus. I can either stay in control in these situations or I can just crumble at the sight of them and turn to PMO.One way to look at recovery is to see it as a matter of taking control of our lives and retaining that control, no matter what. There are things you cannot control such as meteors crashing through the ceiling and killing you instantly. But many things are under your control, porn and masturbation being a couple of examples. Control belongs to you in many things; don't allow someone or something to take control away from you.
One thing that George Collins says that always stuck with me is the idea that "you are not your mind." When we act out, each of us is repeating stories in our minds about what makes us feel good and how we should react when we are exposed to certain stimuli. But those are just stories. And they're stories that many of us have been repeating to ourselves for decades! Collins suggests that when we are struggling with compulsive thoughts, we should come back to the one thing that is always true - that we are the ones that are in control, not our minds. Highly recommend this book, Tclay, if you're looking for ways to outfox your brain. It has helped me tremendously.