AMEN.There are literally millions of men out there watching and masturbating to porn. They, most of them, have no intention of quitting. They don’t probably like that they are subservient to it, but they sure as hell ain’t stopping. We, on the other hand, are different. We know we have a problem. In one way we’re not different - we liked what we did but we recognised we reached a crisis point. Right there is the crucial bit. We got to stage one of recovery because we had some awakening.
I think RN can give the impression that recovery is a 90 day exercise. You just complete that and off you sail into the sunset. At one level that is true….because completing 3 months of abstinence is a fantastic foundation…..but, and sorry to shatter the shop window, it’s only a start. The commitment to stopping gets tested massively every week thereafter. But the promised land awaits. You have to believe that. Those pioneers who went before us know it’s paradise. It of course isn’t a place. It’s a state of mind. And it’s fucking wonderful.
Hey @Artemus, these are good thoughts.That is the question, "Do we want to quit?" After a bender, when I've completely exhausted myself and the shame comes, I can say "I do". When its been a while and I'm not feeling anything at all and the stress of life is bearing down, sometimes in that moment, I struggle to come up with a reason to say no... Its kinda pathetic in the clear light of day, but it feels like, in those numb moments, that I've begun a journey across a vast desert, I'm just about out of site from where I've been and all I can see before me is a vast expanse of sand, with scorching sun all day and freezing cold at night. All you have to go on are the stories from those who've sent back word of a promised land far across the other side. They say you can make it, but out there slugging through all that dry ass sand its hard to stay motivated and not long for where we've been. PMO is a dead end, but its familiar and easy. I suppose no matter your beliefs this journey takes a certain amount of faith to complete it. We have to trust that those who've gone before us aren't pulling our legs that things get better, that there is a promised land on the other side.
Indeed @Androg.Yes, I think of it as going through The Void.
Yes @GBS, it is amazing thinking about all the guys who have this problem but are unaware of it. Walking around campus I often think and ponder about this fact. I see all these beautiful women walking about with their intoxicating youthful femininity, and then I see all these average dudes wandering about being silly with their bros etc. However, knowing the stats that most people aren't having sex these days, I know what's probably going on when these guys are by themselves, and it's a sad thought indeed. True intimacy will never be found by the click of a mouse.There are literally millions of men out there watching and masturbating to porn. They, most of them, have no intention of quitting. They don’t probably like that they are subservient to it, but they sure as hell ain’t stopping. We, on the other hand, are different. We know we have a problem. In one way we’re not different - we liked what we did but we recognised we reached a crisis point. Right there is the crucial bit. We got to stage one of recovery because we had some awakening.
I think RN can give the impression that recovery is a 90 day exercise. You just complete that and off you sail into the sunset. At one level that is true….because completing 3 months of abstinence is a fantastic foundation…..but, and sorry to shatter the shop window, it’s only a start. The commitment to stopping gets tested massively every week thereafter. But the promised land awaits. You have to believe that. Those pioneers who went before us know it’s paradise. It of course isn’t a place. It’s a state of mind. And it’s fucking wonderful.
AMEN.
That made me laugh Lets get to this promised land together. We can do it.Day 623
... the promised land. Those who have gone before us and have talked about the land flowing with milk, honey, and strong boners, should be listened to and heeded.
I'm gonna put this in my journal! AMAZING write upDay 625
Characteristics of men in ancient cultures and myths
- Creating masculine order out of chaos
- Solar power radiating upwards to the heavens
- Inwardly driven in their goals and ambitions
- Acting out stoically as opposed to emotionally
- Protector of family and society
Characteristics of women in ancient cultures and myths
- Representing unbridled feminine energy and earthly passions, be they sex, music, love, or art
- An earthly radiating power towards the earth and thus rebirth
- Outwardly driven in their goals, needs the support of the community
- Acting out emotionally as opposed to stoically
- Protector of her man's family and goals
Looks like we're all a bunch of women with dicks!
Just food for thought, don't take it completely literally.
Now the world needs both the feminine and the masculine spirit, one is not better than the other, and each of us have a little of both in us, and a healthy person can play both parts if need be. However, it is also equally true that the world needs men, not "alpha males" not "players" or any other ism of the modern world, but real men.
So ask yourself this, are you creating order out of chaos today?
Are you obsessed with the things of the earth, and the pussy that gives life and rebirth to us men? Now pussy and rebirth will save your soul, BUT ONLY if you're looking towards the sky and your masculine goals.
Are you focusing on your goals and your future, or are you obsessed with what the community or society thinks, and are you constantly in need of their approval: more likes, more thumbs up on social media, etc.? Are you an Instagram whore but just a phallic one?
Do your emotions guide you throughout your day, driving you off course from your goals, driving you to escape to porn or other means of vacuous entertainment? Can the world rely on you? Can your woman rely on you in her times of need? Are you a masculine rock? Or the feminine storm?
What would you die for? Do you even know? And why would any woman want you if you can't even answer that question?
Men sailed the world in ancient times, fought dragons to save the maiden, and pulled swords out of mystical rocks and not the palm of their sweaty hands! What are you doing today that someone might write about one day?
Look to the heavens gents, look to the heavens.
You all have a good porn-free Wednesday.
Great insights, Blondie. Discerning the purpose of my life has been indispensable in lighting the flame of self-improvement inside me (and the cardinal directive on this self-improvement journey is overcoming porn addiction). Finding heroic men to emulate has been similarly important, and the actions of such men have been a sort of guidepost for me on this path. One of my favorite historians once said, “The point of a role model is not servile imitation, but to offer living principles that inspire.” When I acquaint myself with brave men throughout history — Hector of Troy, Ernst Jünger, Dick Winters, William Wallace, King Alfred, and others — I feel compelled to act as they did, bravely and nobly. These particular men fought in wars, witnessed their friends perish, took the lives of other men, and bore unfathomable hardship. At the risk of sounding dramatic, if they could do that then surely we can overcome this, difficult though it may be.Day 625
Characteristics of men in ancient cultures and myths
- Creating masculine order out of chaos
- Solar power radiating upwards to the heavens
- Inwardly driven in their goals and ambitions
- Acting out stoically as opposed to emotionally
- Protector of family and society
Characteristics of women in ancient cultures and myths
- Representing unbridled feminine energy and earthly passions, be they sex, music, love, or art
- An earthly radiating power towards the earth and thus rebirth
- Outwardly driven in their goals, needs the support of the community
- Acting out emotionally as opposed to stoically
- Protector of her man's family and goals
Looks like we're all a bunch of women with dicks!
Just food for thought, don't take it completely literally.
Now the world needs both the feminine and the masculine spirit, one is not better than the other, and each of us have a little of both in us, and a healthy person can play both parts if need be. However, it is also equally true that the world needs men, not "alpha males" not "players" or any other ism of the modern world, but real men.
So ask yourself this, are you creating order out of chaos today?
Are you obsessed with the things of the earth, and the pussy that gives life and rebirth to us men? Now pussy and rebirth will save your soul, BUT ONLY if you're looking towards the sky and your masculine goals.
Are you focusing on your goals and your future, or are you obsessed with what the community or society thinks, and are you constantly in need of their approval: more likes, more thumbs up on social media, etc.? Are you an Instagram whore but just a phallic one?
Do your emotions guide you throughout your day, driving you off course from your goals, driving you to escape to porn or other means of vacuous entertainment? Can the world rely on you? Can your woman rely on you in her times of need? Are you a masculine rock? Or the feminine storm?
What would you die for? Do you even know? And why would any woman want you if you can't even answer that question?
Men sailed the world in ancient times, fought dragons to save the maiden, and pulled swords out of mystical rocks and not the palm of their sweaty hands! What are you doing today that someone might write about one day?
Look to the heavens gents, look to the heavens.
You all have a good porn-free Wednesday.
@GBSI was just outside and looked to the heavens and a pigeon crapped on my shoulder. Complete honest truth.
I looked up some pigeon recipes, this looks nice….
Kudos to you brother. I know for myself, this has profoundly changed my life, just a general sense of self-improvement. Many of us use porn, because we have or had no other mission in life. Find your mission, and you won't have time for such ridiculous activities.Discerning the purpose of my life has been indispensable in lighting the flame of self-improvement inside me (and the cardinal directive on this self-improvement journey is overcoming porn addiction).
Beautiful writing and absolutely true. I love how you mentioned Dick Winters, an absolute icon of true masculinity and honor, and Hector, you can't get any better than that. I too have found these heroes to be stimulating while living in a valueless world without meaning and purpose. Yes, if they can do it, we should easily be able to stop our degenerate ways.Finding heroic men to emulate has been similarly important, and the actions of such men have been a sort of guidepost for me on this path. One of my favorite historians once said, “The point of a role model is not servile imitation, but to offer living principles that inspire.” When I acquaint myself with brave men throughout history — Hector of Troy, Ernst Jünger, Dick Winters, William Wallace, King Alfred, and others — I feel compelled to act as they did, bravely and nobly. These particular men fought in wars, witnessed their friends perish, took the lives of other men, and bore unfathomable hardship. At the risk of sounding dramatic, if they could do that then surely we can overcome this, difficult though it may be.
Indeed, I often reflect on my deathbed and think about these things. To my mind, hell is NOT some far off land or reality after death, it is in the here and now, and how we choose to live our lives. Our actions will determine our hell. Choose wisely!Being addicted to PMO is not only unproductive vis-á-vis these things — but rather incredibly counterproductive. We cannot be the best versions of ourselves with this addiction hanging around our necks. I’m certain that if we were on our deathbeds, having been unable to overcome this affliction in our lifetimes, our ailing future selves would depart this earth regretting — perhaps more than anything else — that we had squandered our precious lives on the pursuit of empty sensory pleasure rather than achieving the greatness for which we were destined.
INCREDIBLE post man, truly no wordsDay 625
Characteristics of men in ancient cultures and myths
- Creating masculine order out of chaos
- Solar power radiating upwards to the heavens
- Inwardly driven in their goals and ambitions
- Acting out stoically as opposed to emotionally
- Protector of family and society
Characteristics of women in ancient cultures and myths
- Representing unbridled feminine energy and earthly passions, be they sex, music, love, or art
- An earthly radiating power towards the earth and thus rebirth
- Outwardly driven in their goals, needs the support of the community
- Acting out emotionally as opposed to stoically
- Protector of her man's family and goals
Looks like we're all a bunch of women with dicks!
Just food for thought, don't take it completely literally.
Now the world needs both the feminine and the masculine spirit, one is not better than the other, and each of us have a little of both in us, and a healthy person can play both parts if need be. However, it is also equally true that the world needs men, not "alpha males" not "players" or any other ism of the modern world, but real men.
So ask yourself this, are you creating order out of chaos today?
Are you obsessed with the things of the earth, and the pussy that gives life and rebirth to us men? Now pussy and rebirth will save your soul, BUT ONLY if you're looking towards the sky and your masculine goals.
Are you focusing on your goals and your future, or are you obsessed with what the community or society thinks, and are you constantly in need of their approval: more likes, more thumbs up on social media, etc.? Are you an Instagram whore but just a phallic one?
Do your emotions guide you throughout your day, driving you off course from your goals, driving you to escape to porn or other means of vacuous entertainment? Can the world rely on you? Can your woman rely on you in her times of need? Are you a masculine rock? Or the feminine storm?
What would you die for? Do you even know? And why would any woman want you if you can't even answer that question?
Men sailed the world in ancient times, fought dragons to save the maiden, and pulled swords out of mystical rocks and not the palm of their sweaty hands! What are you doing today that someone might write about one day?
Look to the heavens gents, look to the heavens.
You all have a good porn-free Wednesday.
Could be lots of things brother, glad you saw the humour in it! It could be the stress you're currently feelingLooks like I'm in a flatline of sorts, my dick hardly worked during sex, it was barely hard enough! We just laughed it off. I assume this is a flatline and not just being 40, but who knows because I've never been this far.
Bring it on.
Fuck porn and you all have a great porn-free Saturday!
Shake it off my man! You've had dozens if not hundreds of proof points in the past year that everything is working fine down there, it's just a small speed bump. Definitely take it easy as you have and move onLooks like I'm in a flatline of sorts, my dick hardly worked during sex, it was barely hard enough! We just laughed it off. I assume this is a flatline and not just being 40, but who knows because I've never been this far.
Bring it on.
Fuck porn and you all have a great porn-free Saturday!
Well, at least you know the pattern. This will pass.Day 629
Thanks gents, @SmokenMirrors and @First_step_thousand_miles, I really appreciate the encouragement. At this point I'm not too scared about this happening (I know it will pass), I think it's more just the curiosity of wondering how the brain works and how those old porn pathways still can give me a little hell that I find interesting. My cycles of flatlines have always gone like this: suddenly having vivid dreams, then sexualized thought patterns, then flatline, usually in that order, and sometimes, no sleep. Well, I had those dreams a few weeks ago, then that crazy bout of pornified thoughts (the worst I've had in half a year), then now a flatline that is also the worst I've had in probably a half a year. Also this week, sleep isn't terrible, but it's not great either. I've never been this far out before, and I think my mind is trying to fight it.
You all have a great porn-free Sunday.