KittyHawk
Active Member
I can relate. When I was 27, I was also a virgin, never been even kissed on a mouth, my biggest intimate "action" in the history was friendly kiss on a cheek from a girl from my class. I was living with my parents. I suffered from sever social anxiety. Eye contact with woman outside my family was almost unimaginable. I had a job but it was so low-paid I couldn't afford to move out from my parents.
I was deciding whether to try psychoanalysis, commit suicide, or buy myself a prostitute. Don't to any of that.
In just one year, almost everything changed towards better. You know how?
I was depressed but I believe back at that point I had every reason to be depressed since my life was terrible. Instead of tackling symptoms (depression, social anxiety, etc), I focused on getting better at making money and at talking to girls. Making initial contact on a street or somewhere in the real life was too scary, so I started with online dating. First few dates were a tragedy, because once the girl saw how I behave in person, she instantly lost interest. I was turned down even by some really unattractive ones. But I persisted and slowly made progress.
Today, I am 32 and far from being confident, extroverted or perfect in any other measurable way. Still, I found a beautiful wife, relocated to the country of my dreams, bought a house. If I could do it, you surely can too. Start with what you can change about yourself right now. Maybe taking better care about your appearance? Maybe start interacting with women on non-romantic basis through some hobby? If that is too much, start interacting with guys.
Take baby steps. You will eventually get there.
PS: If you have any question, send me PM. I did a lot of mistakes coming out of the misery that was my life so I can save you some time.
I was deciding whether to try psychoanalysis, commit suicide, or buy myself a prostitute. Don't to any of that.
In just one year, almost everything changed towards better. You know how?
I was depressed but I believe back at that point I had every reason to be depressed since my life was terrible. Instead of tackling symptoms (depression, social anxiety, etc), I focused on getting better at making money and at talking to girls. Making initial contact on a street or somewhere in the real life was too scary, so I started with online dating. First few dates were a tragedy, because once the girl saw how I behave in person, she instantly lost interest. I was turned down even by some really unattractive ones. But I persisted and slowly made progress.
Today, I am 32 and far from being confident, extroverted or perfect in any other measurable way. Still, I found a beautiful wife, relocated to the country of my dreams, bought a house. If I could do it, you surely can too. Start with what you can change about yourself right now. Maybe taking better care about your appearance? Maybe start interacting with women on non-romantic basis through some hobby? If that is too much, start interacting with guys.
Take baby steps. You will eventually get there.
PS: If you have any question, send me PM. I did a lot of mistakes coming out of the misery that was my life so I can save you some time.