quit for good
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Jlied
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I am still around, but I’m trying to just spend a bit less time here, part of it is burn out, part of it is I want to distance myself more from the cloud of addiction and past faults while focusing more on living life the right way. I haven’t fallen off the wagon, just needed to take a break for a bit
joepanic
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Jilied I find myself in the same position. I just want to leave it behind and not have any reminders of who i was. I am becoming someone else. I don't feel I was ever allowed to conduct my detox from this addiction on my terms which made it all that much more difficult. But it is what it is. It's an open forum so people are allowed to express their opinions weather we like them or not
Jlied
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I acknowledge that I will probably always need to keep a level of maintenance in my life when it comes to porn addiction, porn and scantily clad women are everywhere so it would become very easy to fall back into the pits of the addiction, that being said, I long for the days when it doesn’t have to be something I think about on a daily basis. I’m getting there, but, I’m not where I want to be yet. Maybe that level is not attainable, time will tell, but for now I am happy for the reboot nation nest to come back to and engage in conversation with like minded men.
joepanic
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Yes scantily clad women(that is quite the term isn't it)are everywhere and I thank any sort of God out there for that fact. Big difference between admiring a gal in a bikini on the beach from beating your meat for hours on end while watching others bang on a screen. Some might say it is inconsiderate to look while out with your wife. it doesn't bother mine at all. Just like she really loves the accent of Sean Connery or Mel Gibson in Braveheart. Even though my voice could never compete with that. Whether its a visual or a sound it makes no difference.
joepanic
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Oh my where did 2 weeks go still totally clean of the dreaded pmo . And its been 3 weeks since wife and I frolicked in the sac. Pretty much a record since our last child was born in 2013. Basically we have been bogged down by a bunch of work recently. Things will probably settle back down now that we have a few financial dealings put away to take care of our future. Good thing is I did not feel the need to run to pmo. In the meantime I am good with the way she walks around the house now that the kids are gone most of the time. Not sure I should get into the visual details. Don't need to set off any triggers. I know for me at the moment I am so removed from pmo that seeing a girl on tv or on the street beach or someone describing something to me no longer triggers me. I do remember the sensation though of the trigger and how nit made me feel. Even the thoughts in my head about how I wanted to take care of that trigger. Now I just smile and no I have the real strength of a man. Not because I can stay away from pmo as the result of a trigger but because I understand why and the fact that that energy is now concentrated elsewhere Kind of a new default setting. or maybe what the original default setting should be. I hear Mr GBS mention his wife dressing in a certain way and tell myself "Perfect" Not every privilege to him being a married man has been taken away.
Perhaps I am rambling not sure Just posting on the available facts for the time being. Wonder if the forum will ever be opened again.
Perhaps I am rambling not sure Just posting on the available facts for the time being. Wonder if the forum will ever be opened again.
joepanic
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Got back on the exercise bike for the 1st time in weeks. All part of living the life I should have been living starting over 30 years ago. Don't really know what to post regarding rebooting from porn these days I think most of it has all been said so y'all get to listen to my mundane reports on losing weight for the time being
cheers
cheers
joepanic
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Decided to give it a go to do 90 days no mo with a few of the guys here I'm on day 2 of that i think it might be easier than I thought as i wasn't doing that all that often anyways. other habits I had started changing were no fast food both for financial reasons as well as health reasons that is going well as i just finished 7 days of that. workouts are becoming more routine although they are still somewhat lite
Galatians51
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Love it man!
joepanic
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finished day 4 no mo sort of good I am debating with myself if there is anything wrong with mo. Wife has been buy these days Not much time to bang her. Not a huge issue as i know we probably will this weekend. There are so many opinions about M that its really hard to figure out what to believe and if I am going to do 90 days without it than the reasons why. For now I will not and debate it further tomorrow cheers
GBS
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Hi @joepanic
Firstly well done on the 4 days, especially if that’s new territory for you. There’s a wealth of intelligence on the subject of no MO ranging from what I would call the standard view, which means it’s fine generally. It’s natural, men need release, don’t feel guilty. That’s the advice. The metaphorical small print says beware it becoming a pastime and compulsive and doing it to pornography. You know all that of course. At the other end of the scale are the real hard line semen retention crowd who say you’re destroying something within yourself every time you masturbate. So much good is within and you will improve as a human if you just completely stop. Not stop for 90 days, stop forever. And one source went as far as to say that you should have sex with your wife but not ejaculate very often.
So no one can tell you what’s best. I just found that by not MO’ing I learned a great deal about myself and it was the best way to avoid the pull of porn. Then after a few months of only MO’ing sort of once a month, I felt vastly different. So much more awake and alert and like a man. So I connected the dots and knew that not MO’ing was improving me so I just kept going and then it was just a case of how long I could last.
Therefore, and obviously, it’s up to you. See if you change and see if the changes make you want to carry on. Thing is I reckon you need to see if you can do 30 days before I think there’s a significant change you will notice. Good luck.
Firstly well done on the 4 days, especially if that’s new territory for you. There’s a wealth of intelligence on the subject of no MO ranging from what I would call the standard view, which means it’s fine generally. It’s natural, men need release, don’t feel guilty. That’s the advice. The metaphorical small print says beware it becoming a pastime and compulsive and doing it to pornography. You know all that of course. At the other end of the scale are the real hard line semen retention crowd who say you’re destroying something within yourself every time you masturbate. So much good is within and you will improve as a human if you just completely stop. Not stop for 90 days, stop forever. And one source went as far as to say that you should have sex with your wife but not ejaculate very often.
So no one can tell you what’s best. I just found that by not MO’ing I learned a great deal about myself and it was the best way to avoid the pull of porn. Then after a few months of only MO’ing sort of once a month, I felt vastly different. So much more awake and alert and like a man. So I connected the dots and knew that not MO’ing was improving me so I just kept going and then it was just a case of how long I could last.
Therefore, and obviously, it’s up to you. See if you change and see if the changes make you want to carry on. Thing is I reckon you need to see if you can do 30 days before I think there’s a significant change you will notice. Good luck.
joepanic
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Having a really good week considering how much is going on. This is probably the longest I have been away from porn in a long time. I think part of it is the concentration on other things. i am working out again in the mornings before work and it feels pretty good. All sorts of fantasies going through my head. Things like becoming buff and walking down the beach in front of other ladies and not feeling like a schmuck. To me weather I am married or not it hurts no one to possibly be the object of someone else's desire. Only thing is I do know where to draw the line. Just don't want to feel like a middle aged loser. My wife won't admit it but i think she would rather look at me being a little more buff than not. she won't admit it because than she might have to live up to the same standards and at the moment she is not willing to put in the effort. but i am good with that. So on to another day
joepanic
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As of Jan 1st I felt I was honestly able to claim "SUCCESS" I actually feel it's now a part of my past. Cravings gone triggers pretty much non existent. I understand the causes and effects.
Relationship with wife doing pretty good. If only she would find a little more time for us to be a married couple but I am sure this is an issue with many middle aged and older couples. But in the end I quit porn for me not her. All she knows is I decided I was no longer interested in it for my own reasons
How I feel? Well not too sure yet Time will tell there. It's all the realizations of how much was lost over the years do to porn and wondering if there is still time to do, learn, and experience the things I always wanted to. If porn stopped me from achieving them or if it will be something else. It's a little like being given a 2nd chance perhaps. I get to start a new life I suppose
Will try to post my thoughts from time to time on how the new life feels
Relationship with wife doing pretty good. If only she would find a little more time for us to be a married couple but I am sure this is an issue with many middle aged and older couples. But in the end I quit porn for me not her. All she knows is I decided I was no longer interested in it for my own reasons
How I feel? Well not too sure yet Time will tell there. It's all the realizations of how much was lost over the years do to porn and wondering if there is still time to do, learn, and experience the things I always wanted to. If porn stopped me from achieving them or if it will be something else. It's a little like being given a 2nd chance perhaps. I get to start a new life I suppose
Will try to post my thoughts from time to time on how the new life feels
joepanic
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Hmmmm In about 24 hours I will have a week of no "mo" And i wasn't even consciously even trying or thinking about it. not sure when the last time I pulled that off. Still continuing to work out a little and dropped half dozen lbs in the last little while Um only 60 more to go or so. Have some free time on my hands today Have to think of something to do