joepanic
Respected Member
Sheesh everyone here seems to need something different. In one sentence the some of the ladies all say they miss "sex" with their hubbies but complain that it's shame that men's number one reason for rebooting was to get over their Pied. Well one can't have it both ways now can they,
TakeActionNow I find this statement interesting coming from a rebooter. "Many will still say sex is a need. I however have reached a state where sex is a good to have, but not a must have. My outlook seemed to have gained a certain clarity that my personal wellbeing is not, and cannot, come from another person. And that my happiness comes solely from my independence, and harmonious living with others. I am, and can be, complete by myself." Put this in the partners(please see ladies) section. I wonder how the responses would be.
Ask any marriage counselor or sex therapist and you will here that it is cruel to enter into a relationship with someone where your only supposed to have sex with that person and they withhold it and your not allowed to get it somewhere else. Now I am sure I may take a beating with a wet noodle for that statement as i am an x-porn addict but the argument that porn is a form of cheating is different for everyone. In the end I am an x-porn addict who never neglected my wife and she has never considered porn use to be cheating.
If only having sex with your partner after you commit to the relationship was not a carved in stone law for the relationship than I think your arguments would hold up.
Now of course there are the times of "sickness" or "stress" and so on I completely understand these reasons. but these are not my wife's reasons
finally I never said we don't have sex I only mentioned how unbalanced I have found our sex life to be at times and how I have never been granted fair and open communication on the topic
Again I do find all this relationship talk to be somewhat interesting
Post often it helps me it helps you
TakeActionNow I find this statement interesting coming from a rebooter. "Many will still say sex is a need. I however have reached a state where sex is a good to have, but not a must have. My outlook seemed to have gained a certain clarity that my personal wellbeing is not, and cannot, come from another person. And that my happiness comes solely from my independence, and harmonious living with others. I am, and can be, complete by myself." Put this in the partners(please see ladies) section. I wonder how the responses would be.
Ask any marriage counselor or sex therapist and you will here that it is cruel to enter into a relationship with someone where your only supposed to have sex with that person and they withhold it and your not allowed to get it somewhere else. Now I am sure I may take a beating with a wet noodle for that statement as i am an x-porn addict but the argument that porn is a form of cheating is different for everyone. In the end I am an x-porn addict who never neglected my wife and she has never considered porn use to be cheating.
If only having sex with your partner after you commit to the relationship was not a carved in stone law for the relationship than I think your arguments would hold up.
Now of course there are the times of "sickness" or "stress" and so on I completely understand these reasons. but these are not my wife's reasons
finally I never said we don't have sex I only mentioned how unbalanced I have found our sex life to be at times and how I have never been granted fair and open communication on the topic
Again I do find all this relationship talk to be somewhat interesting
Post often it helps me it helps you