In the belly of the whale:
Things looked to be pretty straight forward tonight. I had a wonderful weekend, a great day, and I was getting ready for bed at 10pm. And I decided that I would play some overwatch. I said I would add it to the reboot. But I've still been playing. A lot less though. So I played for an hour and a half and then got that restless feeling that used to start when I was playing and would always lead to pmo.
It's like a novelty urge I think. I'm playing and I'm like, one more, one more. And every game is different, different heroes, different maps and different opponents. The first few games are really fun then I gets in the novelty craving mood. But I recognized this was happening and turned the game off at 11:30.
I then went on my phone. I'm on my phone a lot, probably not the best idea. I was looking through my Facebook stories and game across one of my old college friends with very little on. That was a strong trigger. I immediately turned my phone off. Then I said, I'll read a book. So I got a book off the shelf about a guy meeting a film crew who wants to shoot footage for a film version of his memoir. He talks a lot about not remembering many memories and a few other things that were triggering me because they reminded me of past actions I regret.
Then I turned to phone back on to post on here. The restlessness feeling is here, the physical feeling down below is here, and my heart is beating a little faster in anticipation of pmo. Can't blame the heart really, that was the pattern for a long time. I'm 15 days in and I'm so happy. It's my longest streak in months.
It seems to me that pmo urges and me having trouble falling asleep and video game binges come right after a lot of progress on my dreams and right before the next step. In many ways it's like hearing the call to over over the trench across no man's land and instead of answering the call, taking my rifle and blowing a hole in my foot. It's like "oh no, look at me, I'm injured, I'm sick, I had a disease, I'm addicted, I can't possibly go over the trench, I'll stay here in the dark and fantasize and pretend that I have all those things I want." But it's not real.
Do you know what types of overwatch heroes I play? Tanks, front line main tanks. Not afraid to charge in and open up the fight. I want to do that in real life, not just sitting in front of the laptop.
I don't even like sitting, I don't really even like video games. If I had a magic wand, I would learn a craft. I would learn korean, do tons of backpacking on weekends preparing for the PCT, be social every Friday night and doing lots of meet ups and organizing on the weekdays and preparing for the future. I'd be 30 pounds lighter, and way more confident. I'd finally record my travel and vlog style internet show I've been thinking about for years and years, maybe do a podcast too. I want to be with a woman again, it's been a long time.
But when I get worked up and vow and promise to myself to make it all happen, I get excited for a few days then go back to my old habits. But I have done incredible things but I in the past come back to my old habits of pmo and video games.
Hmmm, I was going to do this tomorrow in my entry but let's do it now.
1. Korean language:
I don't practice or study, that's why I'm not learning.
New habit:
A. On my train commute each way, study my online flashcards, (total of 40 mins) if I run out add more flash cards from lesson notes or my book.
B. Over diner review my grammar concepts and write out homework exercises
C. After I finish black sails, which I'm almost done, watch K dramas and shows for entertainment. Do this instead of overwatch
D. If I play overwatch, play on the korean servers.
2. Generally Fit:
I eat too much and move very little. I am an office worker and the sedentary lifestyle has cause me to gain 30 pounds I don't need. That's a lot
it seems to me. Just 10 months ago I was as fit as a worldclass athlete after hiking 2,200 miles straight. I was able to fit in a my old clothes. I got depressed after the trail while I had trouble finding a job and gained the weight back then and at the office.
A. Continue to do Pavels simple kettlebell program almost every morning before work. This has been going well and I like the program.
B. After work cardio, often with my friend. Running, long walk, biking, paddling, stairs etc.
C. Take a 30 minute lunch break and walk. Every day if possible.
D. Use stand up desk at work 25% of the time and work my way up.
E. Eat more vegetables.
F. Sleep 9 hours a day. - this is tough but the benefits are astronomical.
3. The vlog, blog, show thing.
A. Spend a few minutes before bed dreaming about and planing what it will look like.
B. Continue to blog on reboot nation, it's good writing practice.
4. Meeting a lady.
A. This will come as I gain momentum but I will be proactive on the dating apps.
Now I need to decide if I should workout tomorrow morning on 6.5 hours of sleep or sleep in and get 7.5ish hours and workout the next day. I think the sleep is more important since I worked out twice today and need to recover. I'm serious about the 9 hours of sleep, it will be a game changer. 10-7.
Thanks for reading, anyone who made it to the end of this post. I stayed the course and now the urge has passed and I'm sleepy again.