Andrew1973
Active Member
Well done Mr Slurps! Are we having another virtual party on day 10, or should be go for a fortnight?! 
Great work.
Great work.
Ex-edger
- Thread starter mr.slurps
- Start date
Andrew1973
Active Member
I'm a better attendee than a host Mr S, but I'll be definitely at your 2 week party! Just make sure we get there, ok? Stay strong my friend! Party>PMO !!!
Hi UK, I'm working on getting to 2 weeks- and I mean struggling. Today will be #11.
The good news is that I've managed to turn around June after a very lousy start (6 days relapse/binge). On my calendar there are many more blue marks than red.
So as of this minute the 2 week party is on. I'm trying to focus on that so I don't get overwhelmed by the full task ahead. Three days seems more feasible than 3 months or years.
I may adopt your formula in the future: party>pmo
The good news is that I've managed to turn around June after a very lousy start (6 days relapse/binge). On my calendar there are many more blue marks than red.
So as of this minute the 2 week party is on. I'm trying to focus on that so I don't get overwhelmed by the full task ahead. Three days seems more feasible than 3 months or years.
I may adopt your formula in the future: party>pmo
ShadeTrenicin
Well-Known Member
Hey Mr.Slurps,
great going my friend. Day #11 is excellent. When is your most difficult period? Because a lot of guys have troubles around the 2-3 weeks marker. PLease share so that all of us can help you get through it to make the 14 day party a fact!!!
I am rooting for you my friend! Stay safe and porn free
great going my friend. Day #11 is excellent. When is your most difficult period? Because a lot of guys have troubles around the 2-3 weeks marker. PLease share so that all of us can help you get through it to make the 14 day party a fact!!!
I am rooting for you my friend! Stay safe and porn free
Hi, Day #12 UK you're right re that 2-3 week time being a pitfall for me. I'm wired tight as a banjo string and playing out worst case scenarios right and left. PMO...$$...job...family...friends...health...teeth (I'm a weirdo. lol)
Then taking a step back all of those are in decent shape. Far from perfect teeth but they're all there and functional. haha
The PMO urges are having a snowball effect gathering up every other uncertainty under the sun. (Man, we have plenty of them in this world at present.)
Any and all support/advice is definitely welcome.
Happy Father's Day to anyone who qualifies.
Then taking a step back all of those are in decent shape. Far from perfect teeth but they're all there and functional. haha
The PMO urges are having a snowball effect gathering up every other uncertainty under the sun. (Man, we have plenty of them in this world at present.)
Any and all support/advice is definitely welcome.
Happy Father's Day to anyone who qualifies.
J
J01
Guest
Great work! Double digits is a great accomplishment and signifies an ability to do much more. Have a good week!
Andrew1973
Active Member
Well done Slurps. I thought all American's had good teeth, and it was us Brits that had the dodgy ones?!
In terms of negotiating the troublesome 2-3 week barrier, just remember:
- choose where you are building your resistance wall (ideally in front of those weak triggers to stop them in their tracks, not further down the line when you have your pants around your ankles - it's too late then). Invest serious time in this exercise, get it right, and practice being aware of when you are being pulled in the direction of milder triggers.
- have the 6 point plan on hand for emergencies (why not read it at the start and end of every day?)
Looking forward to the 14 day party my friend!
Take care.
In terms of negotiating the troublesome 2-3 week barrier, just remember:
- choose where you are building your resistance wall (ideally in front of those weak triggers to stop them in their tracks, not further down the line when you have your pants around your ankles - it's too late then). Invest serious time in this exercise, get it right, and practice being aware of when you are being pulled in the direction of milder triggers.
- have the 6 point plan on hand for emergencies (why not read it at the start and end of every day?)
Looking forward to the 14 day party my friend!
Take care.
Hi Guys, Thanks for the support. I sure need it. Day #13, half way, working soon, thank goodness
Some semi-profound general said "war is hell!" Today it is!
Triggers are popping up in the most unexpected places. I'm giving myself every delusive excuse known to mankind.
I think today will be white knuckle glory, at least that's what I'm hoping.
Yesterday I gave $9 to a crippled guy at the gas station. He wasn't begging. It felt good to get my mind off of my pitiful self long enough to help some one else.
That's the way you guys are for me right now. I'm not begging but I sure do appreciate all help.
Some semi-profound general said "war is hell!" Today it is!
Triggers are popping up in the most unexpected places. I'm giving myself every delusive excuse known to mankind.
I think today will be white knuckle glory, at least that's what I'm hoping.
Yesterday I gave $9 to a crippled guy at the gas station. He wasn't begging. It felt good to get my mind off of my pitiful self long enough to help some one else.
That's the way you guys are for me right now. I'm not begging but I sure do appreciate all help.
Andrew1973
Active Member
I'm sorry to hear about your brother's heart attack Slurps and hope he is ok. I am sure that will be on your mind so take care. How much of your motivation is currently focussed on hitting 14 days? If a lot, how do you transition to another goal and build on the momentum? Well done on the great progress. It's really good to share it with you.
Day 0,
Trigger was the perfect storm; fear, sadness, isolation
Facts: Brother had a heart attack yesterday was in ICU, father brought to ICU, Arizona is the hot spot of the U.S. by far now, so I got afraid and called off work for the week (probably a wise decision), but I feel like a wimp b/c I could have not cancelled
Lock down mode
Going to try to get back on track today and not binge
Trigger was the perfect storm; fear, sadness, isolation
Facts: Brother had a heart attack yesterday was in ICU, father brought to ICU, Arizona is the hot spot of the U.S. by far now, so I got afraid and called off work for the week (probably a wise decision), but I feel like a wimp b/c I could have not cancelled
Lock down mode
Going to try to get back on track today and not binge
ShadeTrenicin
Well-Known Member
Hey Buddy,
I am so sorry to hear about your brother. How is he doing currently? I hope is doing as well as circumstances would allow and that he makes a recovery!
You are not a wimp for calling of work, your first and foremost responsibility is to yourself and your own health, so i totally understand your decision to call of work.
About the relapse, man it sucks but it's okay my friend. For now try to focus on your own health and your brothers. We are here for you my friend!
Stay strong and all the best to your family
I am so sorry to hear about your brother. How is he doing currently? I hope is doing as well as circumstances would allow and that he makes a recovery!
You are not a wimp for calling of work, your first and foremost responsibility is to yourself and your own health, so i totally understand your decision to call of work.
About the relapse, man it sucks but it's okay my friend. For now try to focus on your own health and your brothers. We are here for you my friend!
Stay strong and all the best to your family
Andrew1973
Active Member
Hey Slurps,
I hope that you are feeling better today. Fear, sadness and isolation aren't great feelings but totally understandable in your current situation. Don't add to that by being too hard on yourself about the relapse - it's a 30% improvement on the last streak, and a foundation for further growth. My thoughts are with you both personally and for your brother/dad as you all work through your respective battles. Good luck getting back on track - we're all behind you. Take care.
I hope that you are feeling better today. Fear, sadness and isolation aren't great feelings but totally understandable in your current situation. Don't add to that by being too hard on yourself about the relapse - it's a 30% improvement on the last streak, and a foundation for further growth. My thoughts are with you both personally and for your brother/dad as you all work through your respective battles. Good luck getting back on track - we're all behind you. Take care.
workinprogressUK
Well-Known Member
mr.slurps said:
Shittily stressful situation for you, Mr Slurps. Congratulations to you for getting straight back in here and refocusing yourself. Easy to throw your recovery in "the fuckit bucket" in such a difficult situation. I don't know if you'll find the article below useful, but it might give you something to focus on if you're having a case of "the fuckits". Wishing you strength today.
https://www.thefix.com/5-mindful-ways-overcome-fck-its
Leonidas
Active Member
If you had been in New Zealand and cancelled work, then maybe I might have pulled your leg... but you live in the pandemic's deadliest zone. Calling you a wimp for cancelling work would be the furthest thing from my mind.mr.slurps said:
I wish your brother and father recover well.
Hi Guys, My brother and father are back at their homes. Thanks for asking. There's mending to be done there and here!
I need to mend. I hit the skids and today was bad. (Day 0)
The lesson I did learn from my last relapse is to get back on here asap. (Even feeling pathetic and whiny...just write a short note. If I stick my head in the sand it will be worse.
I feel so unworthy of you and every one I know that cares about me.
Thanks for your support in yet another hour of need.
I need to mend. I hit the skids and today was bad. (Day 0)
The lesson I did learn from my last relapse is to get back on here asap. (Even feeling pathetic and whiny...just write a short note. If I stick my head in the sand it will be worse.
I feel so unworthy of you and every one I know that cares about me.
Thanks for your support in yet another hour of need.
Andrew1973
Active Member
Glad your Brother and Father are heading in the right direction Mr S.
Please though...stop feeling unworthy - you're completely worthy and part of this team. Your participation, encouragement and interest in others is highly valued (certainly by me).
Take care, be kind to yourself, and good luck getting that counter restarted.
Please though...stop feeling unworthy - you're completely worthy and part of this team. Your participation, encouragement and interest in others is highly valued (certainly by me).
Take care, be kind to yourself, and good luck getting that counter restarted.
workinprogressUK
Well-Known Member
Wishing you strength and a slug of wisdom, Mr. S. Can you try to make it easier for yourself today? Any option to minimise your tech?