What times and where are you usually relapsing? Is it in a specific location where you can be without a device to access porn? Is it at a time where some time lock can help? I don't bring my phone in the bathroom or bedroom with me, unless I'm reading some news when my wife is there too or something like that. For the rest it's in the living room. Additionally there's blocking software so it wouldn't even be possible but I think it's good practice anyways.
I've used this Fortify programme to help with the addiction and it has some really good techniques and tips. It also introduces choice points. There's always a couple of choices you make that will inevitably lead to porn and the earlier you notice this the easier it is to stop. For example it starts with browsing the internet mindlessly, then you click on some suggestive article about something not even related to porn, you dive deeper into it by finding other information, find more suggestive content, go to some private place, open an incognito browser and back to porn. Plenty of choices that are made that could be stopped by identifying when you're entering the circle towards relapsing. I hope this way of seeing things may help you.
It sucks to dissapoint someone you care so much about, that's a strong feeling within you. Hold on to that! Do you have someone to talk to that isn't your girlfriend? Might help to talk with a professional or someone else to get some insights.
I've used this Fortify programme to help with the addiction and it has some really good techniques and tips. It also introduces choice points. There's always a couple of choices you make that will inevitably lead to porn and the earlier you notice this the easier it is to stop. For example it starts with browsing the internet mindlessly, then you click on some suggestive article about something not even related to porn, you dive deeper into it by finding other information, find more suggestive content, go to some private place, open an incognito browser and back to porn. Plenty of choices that are made that could be stopped by identifying when you're entering the circle towards relapsing. I hope this way of seeing things may help you.
It sucks to dissapoint someone you care so much about, that's a strong feeling within you. Hold on to that! Do you have someone to talk to that isn't your girlfriend? Might help to talk with a professional or someone else to get some insights.