SmokenMirrors
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Keep up the good fight man!
so very true, i have been stuggling with this for so longI know how this goes. The image of an individual, who is at the age where he should be a man, sitting in front of his computer in the dark edging to porn, is a very sad show. Maybe a pathetic show for some people, if they get to enter in the room and see the guy. Or me, cause I'm a guy like that now. I'm 30 and I edge in the dark with my dick in my hand and then I go out and I am mediocre as if I haven't grown up a bit in 20 years. I swear, porn fucked up my mental health, it halted my growth (not in height) and it even fucked up my memory of past events. But there is a solution and the solution is to take the chains off.
oh my god , i finally have found someone who has gone through exactly what i haveI have all the reasons to believe that too much PMO has affected my mental health a lot. I belive that my high social anxiety is a result of this. It started when I was 14-15 when I was masturbating twice a day to porn flashbacks and porn induced fantasies. But it got really bad when I was 18 and binging 7 PMOs in a day. And not only this but overthinking, depression, low mental tolerance, poor concentrate, memory problems, difficulties with memorizing, and I used to have a great ability to memorize and remember things in elementary school, it was my strength and then porn addiction hit hard and it has reduced this ability to a laughing stock, I need to read something like 10 times to memorize it.
Hey man,I can definitely relate to the boat you're in @forceisstrong2. It really sucks when you give it your all and by one slip up, feel like the whole world's come crushing down on you. I for one can barely go past through a week and have been trying to quit for the past eight years. It's no easy feat but we're here for a reason and it's because we want to be free, get better, take back control of our thoughts and mind.
All I can say is you're not alone and just hang in there. It's never easy but with time and resilience, it'll get better. I only wish a the best and stay strong
Yeah,so very true, i have been stuggling with this for so long
i never knew why i was not able to remember basic stuffs like houses on the roads names of my distant relatives and why was i always so anxious when i looked people in the eye i felt like they know my masturbation habits and i would just avoid eye contact at any cost with anyone i could not even speak with confidence
now i know it just didnt interest me
turns out it was porn all the time all i wanted to remember was porn and it fucked me up it turned me into this pathetic loser who is know not able to step out of his house
Hey,Hi Force.
I wrote something about binges a while back (and not on this site). I'll quote it below with a few edits:
"Bingeing used to be a huge issue for me, and for a long time, but somehow in the last couple of years I got better at avoiding it. I don't think nearly enough emphasis gets placed on this issue and how to resolve it, unless I'm missing something. Often the advice seems to be:
"Don't binge."
But how do you avoid bingeing? Maybe I'll do a list of some things which I think help:
Anyway, hope this helps in some way, even if it's a case of, "Who does this guy think he is?" and it distracts you from urges that way lol."
- Do your best to never look at "actual", high-speed internet porn. Porn makes bingers out of non-bingers. It's a massive binge-promoting activity. P-subs, chat and all the rest of it, yes they can certainly "inspire" binges, but not to nearly the same extent, I don't think. Remove porn and a significant amount of bingeing goes away.
- Have a "ritual" for when you reset. For me it's: get in the shower, put my clothes in the wash, maybe go for a walk or something, but as soon as it's "safe" to do so, tell someone about the slip online, or write it down somewhere. You may wish to perhaps tell someone who will not overreact in any way. Perhaps someone who has also reset recently. Don't be afraid to write quite a lot of stuff. You could write some things privately, to yourself, and some things to another person (or people). All this reinforces your resolve to get back on track. But be careful while online of course!
- Distract yourself with hobbies and things like that. You could do any remotely positive "thing" instead.
- Don't rely on willpower too much. If in doubt, put yourself in a less triggering environment, or strongly distract yourself and so on.
- There's a book you can get free online called "Never Binge Again". Although it's about binge-eating, it applies well to this addiction too.
Thanks bro. You too!!!Keep up the good fight man!
Thanks man for your encouraging words. I never thought of it alike that, but you are so right. If I can cultivate self-control and self-discipline and beat this bullshit, then yeah naturally it will lead to more positive changes in other areas of my life too.This intense struggle allows you to cultivate self-control and self-discipline, which will lead you towards a more virtuous life. Right now, it seems like an impossible battle but in time, you will be rewarded. Keep fighting. Few men make it through this challenge and commit sincerely to these radical lifestyle changes. By defeating these base urges and winning the battle for our own souls, we can then lead other men to victory. God bless you, best of luck on your journey.
HeyI can definitely relate to the boat you're in @forceisstrong2. It really sucks when you give it your all and by one slip up, feel like the whole world's come crushing down on you. I for one can barely go past through a week and have been trying to quit for the past eight years. It's no easy feat but we're here for a reason and it's because we want to be free, get better, take back control of our thoughts and mind.
All I can say is you're not alone and just hang in there. It's never easy but with time and resilience, it'll get better. I only wish a the best and stay strong
Congrats bro! Keep on moving forwardday 12
thanks, bro. Same to you!Congrats bro! Keep on moving forward
Ah sound Smoken Mirrors. Hope you are doing great!Steaming through to 2 weeks! Great stuff!
Thanks, bro. We got this! Keep fighting the good fight!!!That's the way to go bro! Wishing you more streaks to keep on crushing. You got this!!