Already 14days, my man is back stronger than he already was. Keep doing what you do
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@swimmer97! I appreciate it.
This is a really good resource, glad to have seen your post about it. I've been working through the first three lessons this past fortnight (slow, I know). Thanks!
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@one_man_canoe, there's some great content there. I don't think that's slow at all. There's so much there to think about it and reflect on. Way to be on tackling that head on.
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I feel like adding my 2 cents on the noFap/SR topic.
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@EarthWalker, thanks for weighing in.
Maybe there is a technical difference between noFap and SR.
I honestly have no clue here, though both are modern, SR tries, though often fails miserably, to be connected to some of the more ancient practices like Taoism a Tantra sex etc.
With noFap to me, it is you just don't put energy into masturbation. No masturbation. Simple. You simplify your life. You have more energy to spend on yourself, your life, your partner, etc. You are free to have sex with ejaculation on nofap. Just no masturbation. You say no to being alone in your room and fapping. Simple.
I would agree with this from what I know. I've never been in those reddits though so I could be wrong.
With SR to me, the idea is you can still engage in masturbation, play around with arousal, lust, orgasm, sex but it is without ejaculation. In my view this can get quite complex. Like you can have sex but don't ejaculate, or masturbate but don't ejaculate. There are some books on how to do this and some esoteric practices. In my view, this is for the most part distorted teaching as the underlying motivation might be - want to have pleasure without paying the price for it. Maybe this is why some SR folks put images of hot girls in the videos. The idea is you can have the orgasm/pleasure but you will not pay the energetic price for it via ejaculation. Like the ultimate hack. Multiple-male-orgasm, achievable alone in your room with some esoteric energy practices - go buy my book, go buy my workshop. Yeah, nah bro.
I've never seen anyone on the SR side talk about masturbation while doing SR (doesn't mean it doesn't exist though), but I sure as hell wouldn't do that as a porn addict, past or present, because you're definitely playing with fire. If I was NOT in a relationship, you couldn't pay me to touch myself or masturbate (hell I don't tough myself even now, not even to pee!), because to me, porn and masturbation go hand in hand, but that's just me and my story. However, in a relationship or with a partner, I see no problem with it. SR, Tantra sex, Karezza method, whatever you want to call it, can be an extremely fulfilling and a loving experience that can give you a hell of a high without ever ejaculating. In fact, this healthy high, unlike porn, can go on for hours throughout the day. And if you learn how to do dry orgasms, you can incorporate those too with your partner. I have literally no problem with any of this.
With SR to me, the idea is you can still engage in masturbation, play around with arousal, lust, orgasm, sex but it is without ejaculation.
I'm not sure what you mean by
lust here, I assume masturbating by yourself with fantasy, which as I said I wouldn't advise.
Maybe this is why some SR folks put images of hot girls in the videos.
Yeah this shit is annoying as hell, but what can you do but be the person you wish the world to be?
The idea is you can have the orgasm/pleasure but you will not pay the energetic price for it via ejaculation. Like the ultimate hack. Multiple-male-orgasm, achievable alone in your room with some esoteric energy practices - go buy my book, go buy my workshop. Yeah, nah bro.
Absolutely. There's nothing like hearing some bro telling you about Taoist's sexual practices when they just learned about the concept ten minutes ago on Wikipedia, thus, insulting your intelligence, much less the culture it come from. And then what is more, they want you to buy their book with info that can be found for free if you choose to look for it. In the golden days, we would have heard about this stuff from our tribal elders for free around the campfire, probably in some scared ritual passed down from generation to generation by our ancestors, now, we just get this regurgitated capitalistic nonsense sold to us as a "gift" that we're supposed to be grateful for. No thanks. I would advise though, don't throw out the baby with the bathwater, though of course, in no way would I engage with this stuff as a single person, I would use that energy to get out there and talk to women or work on your goals. And yes, no matter what, keep it simple for yourself.
Kudos to you. But from my own experimentation. Cost/benefit, the complexity added to ones life. It is better for me to keep thing simple.
I would definitely advise to do what works for you that's for sure. We should all listen to our conscience when it comes to these things, for in the end, that's who we have to live with.
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