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Blondie

Blondie

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Day 18 (1975 days of freedom)
Day 18 of no O
Day 18 of no alcohol
57 cold showers

It hasn't been a problem not drinking so far, but I didn't think it was going to be. Drinking has never been "my thing", it was always just something to do as a social thing with my Lady or others. Even though it's true I have abused it in the past, it was always similar to how I've abused food or other things of that nature, and all I needed to do was just back up a bit and reflect on it and become more moderate about it. Needless to say, I've had no withdrawal symptoms or anything of that nature. One positive about this is that when I drank I would also snack, thus, cutting out the drinking has been easier to cut out my snacking as well, which will be great for my weight loss goals. A win win all around.

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Blondie

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Thanks brother. You're right about that.

My head is very cool today. Don't feel horny or anything at all. We had sex last night and everything is working great, so it seems my head and thoughts are just clear and that's all. This SR is very interesting that is for sure. Big 20 tomorrow.
 
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GBS

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Excuse my dear chap, but when you has sex, I presume this was without ejaculation, right? Not something I think I have done before although I read much on tantric sex and Karezza etc. Without trigger specifics, can you possibly explain more please?
 
Blondie

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Hey @GBS, thanks for asking. I won't get into too many details, but yes, it's just sex without ejaculating. If I'm feeling pretty "sporty" and in control of myself, it's more in line with "regular" sex but without getting off. Or, if I'm getting really close to the edge, then we slow it down and just chill in each other's arm with my man still in but without much movement; "chilling" has never been more fun. Then, when he calms down after a moment or two, we might go at it again, and we often do this by switching back in forth between fast and slow. I guess you could call this Professional Edging. :cool: Or, sometimes we might just chill for a real long time and massage each other with no other "goal" in mind.

It does take a while to get use to this type of sex, partly because we've been culturally inculcated that getting "off" is the greatest thing ever etc., however, it does have some benefits that I've really come to appreciate over the years as we've done this here and there. Probably the greatest thing that I've come to love is this, it's quite a different thing to have sex and NOT be thinking only about busting a nut! Let's be honest, no matter how sexy or how much we love our partners etc. so much of that drive for sex is to just get to that last ten seconds. Thus, to put it bluntly, sometimes sex is just a very sexy sexy substitute for the palm of your hand. Think about it, what do us men do when we finally get off? It's game over, and everything is good and blissful etc. Practically speaking, it's mission accomplished. Now of course, I try very hard not to do this, but that's often how I feel about it afterwards. Thus, when I do this SR and don't get off, it seems I focus more on her, and I don't mean other skillful digit activities, I mean just emotionally. Obviously both kinds of sex are great, but I have come to appreciate this as much as the other.
 
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Shodan

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Blondie said:
Thanks brother. You're right about that.

My head is very cool today. Don't feel horny or anything at all. We had sex last night and everything is working great, so it seems my head and thoughts are just clear and that's all. This SR is very interesting that is for sure. Big 20 tomorrow.
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Excuse me for the long reply brother, I think the time difference is a factor, I was probably fast asleep when you sent this BUT im glad, very glad to hear that, always nice starting my day with good news. It’s seems quite apparent you’re still much healed and that minor blip was just that, minor 🙌🏾. It hadn’t and doesn’t undo all the work you’ve put into yourself this far, what a guy!

It’s funny you mention SR because I’ve been reading a lot on it lately, watched quite a few videos on it too. There’s much debate online about its benefits or lack thereof but I believe it can only be good thing after years of training one’s mind and body to empty the tank so to speak, certainly boosts my energy levels with regards to lifting weights and endurance runs that’s for sure. But it’s effect is much more felt mentally aswell, for me personally. Focus’s levels are beyond atm! I mean is the only fluid on the planet, perhaps in the universe that gives our species life! If that it reason enough to retain it I dont know what is. Likewise if it can create/give life to to our species as a whole it can only enhance our minds/bodies/lives personally, right? I’m an avid student of it atm and want to learn all I can about it. So much of the biological benefits we have missed in the years of scourging our brains and bodies in pursuit of that next hit as it were. But on the whole, given what I’ve learned so far I’m happy to let my nuts swell like pumpkins if it’s beneficial which it clearly is. If you have any more info on it that I may have missed please enlighten me brother!

Always a pleasure 👊🏾

Godspeed
 
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Shodan said:
Excuse me for the long reply brother, I think the time difference is a factor, I was probably fast asleep when you sent this BUT im glad, very glad to hear that, always nice starting my day with good news. It’s seems quite apparent you’re still much healed and that minor blip was just that, minor 🙌🏾. It hadn’t and doesn’t undo all the work you’ve put into yourself this far, what a guy!

It’s funny you mention SR because I’ve been reading a lot on it lately, watched quite a few videos on it too. There’s much debate online about its benefits or lack thereof but I believe it can only be good thing after years of training one’s mind and body to empty the tank so to speak, certainly boosts my energy levels with regards to lifting weights and endurance runs that’s for sure. But it’s effect is much more felt mentally aswell, for me personally. Focus’s levels are beyond atm! I mean is the only fluid on the planet, perhaps in the universe that gives our species life! If that it reason enough to retain it I dont know what is. Likewise if it can create/give life to to our species as a whole it can only enhance our minds/bodies/lives personally, right? I’m an avid student of it atm and want to learn all I can about it. So much of the biological benefits we have missed in the years of scourging our brains and bodies in pursuit of that next hit as it were. But on the whole, given what I’ve learned so far I’m happy to let my nuts swell like pumpkins if it’s beneficial which it clearly is. If you have any more info on it that I may have missed please enlighten me brother!

Always a pleasure 👊🏾

Godspeed
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Don’t expect pumpkin sized nuts.😁

Sperm and other components of semen break down and are recycled if they are not expelled. In other words, eventually supply adjusts itself to (lack of) demand.
 
Blondie

Blondie

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Day 20 (1977 days of freedom)
Day 20 of no O
Day 20 of no alcohol
58 cold showers

Androg said:
I think when you don't "fertilize" your partner she remains more attractive to you. That is, you're less likely to feel satiated with her, and be drawn to novelty.
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Yes, that's a good way of seeing @Androg. Thanks.
GBS said:
I so SO want to be in the same place. Thanks again. Brilliant piece.
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Hey @GBS. You will be sir! I just know it.
EarthWalker said:
I'd like to add in the words emotional connection. I think this is what you are explaining. Sex with emotional connection. Glad to hear things are working out for you.
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Yes @EarthWalker, those are the words I was searching for. Thanks! And don't me wrong, I can have an "emotional connection" the other way as well, but this is different because there's no ending to look forward to, so it makes the whole experience quite different.
Shodan said:
Excuse me for the long reply brother, I think the time difference is a factor, I was probably fast asleep when you sent this BUT im glad, very glad to hear that, always nice starting my day with good news. It’s seems quite apparent you’re still much healed and that minor blip was just that, minor 🙌🏾. It hadn’t and doesn’t undo all the work you’ve put into yourself this far, what a guy!
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No problem for the delay @Shodan. Yes, I do feel that me relapse hardly set me back except for the slight urges here and there, but besides that, my previous "porn brain" didn't come back, which I'm very happy about!
Shodan said:
It’s funny you mention SR because I’ve been reading a lot on it lately, watched quite a few videos on it too. There’s much debate online about its benefits or lack thereof but I believe it can only be good thing after years of training one’s mind and body to empty the tank so to speak, certainly boosts my energy levels with regards to lifting weights and endurance runs that’s for sure. But it’s effect is much more felt mentally aswell, for me personally. Focus’s levels are beyond atm!
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Yes, there's definitely much debate about it, which I've got into here and there over the last few weeks. I think some of the benefits are bullshit, but at the same time, I have found much of it to be true. You're right, there's just a completely different feeling when you haven't drained your balls everyday, or even three times a week! I often feel more aggressive and extremely clear headed throughout my day, especially at school. This last week I did extra curricular things that I didn't technically need to do, but I just felt inspired and did it anyway. I'm sure doubters could say I'm bullshiting and that this is some placebo effect etc., and that's fine, but since I'm the ultimate cynic myself, I know I'm not bullsitting when it comes to this stuff personally. Is it the ultimate magical panacea? Absolutely not, life is still hard and women haven't been throwing themselves at me! :cool: But it does have some benefits from what I can tell and because of that, I'm somewhat of a believer. Furthermore, even if none of this is "real", just denying the greatest feeling in the world, that is, an orgasm, and telling yourself no for a set period of time, gives me so much confidence that this is the greatest benefit in of itself. Although last night I almost blew it! :ROFLMAO:
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Androg

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I think there's also a difference between solo SR...which would be very difficult to sustain indefinitely...and partnered sex without the goal of climax. In the latter case, the affectionate exchange helps keep us in balance.
 
Blondie

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Androg said:
I think there's also a difference between solo SR...which would be very difficult to sustain indefinitely...and partnered sex without the goal of climax. In the latter case, the affectionate exchange helps keep us in balance.
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This is true. Though I would say, having done both, each have their own challenges. I'm sure to anyone reading this without a partner, and probably feeling they would do anything to get one, they might think what I'm about to say is crazy but whatever. However, I believe it was easier doing SR or no MO without a partner, than with one, because holding back the dam from breaking during those moments of passion is the hardest thing I've ever done. Obviously as you said @Androg, without a partner it's not something you can do indefinitely, however, with a partner, you also have to think of the other person, and we've actually had a few ups and downs over the last few weeks talking about this very subject, because my choice of doing this was affecting her and her sex life too, not just mine. Needless to say, I'm not saying one is better than the other, or more "manly" etc., just my own observations. Sometimes I've wished I could do this without having to worry about someone else, however, I'm also grateful to have a great and caring lady, so it is what it is. Communication is key when it comes to this that's for sure.
 
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I suspect that for best results both partners will be on the same page...as far as remaining "pre-orgasmic" (as one euphemist once described this practice). :cool:
 
Shodan

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Blondie said:
Day 20 (1977 days of freedom)
Day 20 of no O
Day 20 of no alcohol
58 cold showers


Yes, that's a good way of seeing @Androg. Thanks.

Hey @GBS. You will be sir! I just know it.

Yes @EarthWalker, those are the words I was searching for. Thanks! And don't me wrong, I can have an "emotional connection" the other way as well, but this is different because there's no ending to look forward to, so it makes the whole experience quite different.

No problem for the delay @Shodan. Yes, I do feel that me relapse hardly set me back except for the slight urges here and there, but besides that, my previous "porn brain" didn't come back, which I'm very happy about!

Yes, there's definitely much debate about it, which I've got into here and there over the last few weeks. I think some of the benefits are bullshit, but at the same time, I have found much of it to be true. You're right, there's just a completely different feeling when you haven't drained your balls everyday, or even three times a week! I often feel more aggressive and extremely clear headed throughout my day, especially at school. This last week I did extra curricular things that I didn't technically need to do, but I just felt inspired and did it anyway. I'm sure doubters could say I'm bullshiting and that this is some placebo effect etc., and that's fine, but since I'm the ultimate cynic myself, I know I'm not bullsitting when it comes to this stuff personally. Is it the ultimate magical panacea? Absolutely not, life is still hard and women haven't been throwing themselves at me! :cool: But it does have some benefits from what I can tell and because of that, I'm somewhat of a believer. Furthermore, even if none of this is "real", just denying the greatest feeling in the world, that is, an orgasm, and telling yourself no for a set period of time, gives me so much confidence that this is the greatest benefit in of itself. Although last night I almost blew it! :ROFLMAO:
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ALMOST! 🤣🤣🤣 glad you held that back!!!
 
Blondie

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Day 23 (1980 days of freedom)
Day 23 of no O
Day 23 of no alcohol
59 cold showers
swimmer97 said:
gj my man on 22 days. By the way what is your record for not O ing?
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Thanks @swimmer97!

Well there's two numbers the way I see it. One time in my early 20s when I had a new girlfriend, I stopped looking at porn for eight months straight, and thus, there was no MO as well. However, I didn't think about any of this stuff at the time, especially the MO part, and it was mostly just thinking about not looking at porn. Needless to say, perhaps not thinking about it is the way to go. Also, we weren't having sex either, so there's that. However, over these last ten years after becoming aware of this stuff from reading Your Brain on Porn etc., I've done it 60 days at most, and have probably done that number four or five times throughout the years.

Keep killing it!
 
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