Day 1 (no po, no mo), monk mode.
Here’s a sampling of the comments of heavy porn users about life without
Internet porn. Some have been sharing their progress for months.
When I was 13, I was a very popular guy. A lot of girls liked me and I had nice
friends, almost no problems with schoolwork, and high grades. I never had much
depression, regret, fear or sorrows. Girls seemed to me nice, beautiful, and
attractive, but not to be feared.
The following year I began to masturbate a lot. Now, girls seemed arrogant; I was
fearful of them. Schoolwork became hard, and I barely passed over to the next
grade. I liked less to hang out with friends. What could I do with them? I preferred
girls, but now they were so hard to get... I experienced many problems and
sorrows as well. One girl began bullying me. For the first time I suicide came up
as a passing thought. How weird, considering life was so blissful the previous
year.
I decided to do a lot of sports to get my confidence back. It helped a little,
because if you work yourself ―to death‖ in sports, you can relax somewhat
afterwards. I began looking on the Internet how to pick up a girl. Some "girl pick
up" site said you needed to restrain yourself sexually to make some hormones,
which could help your quest. I did it. It helped, a lot. I fell madly in love with a girl
and I remember lying in the grass in the sun (after 3 weeks of sexual abstention),
kissing in the sun and being MADLY in love, etcetera.
However, afterwards I began masturbating because I had boring homework and
didn‘t want to think about my girlfriend all the time. My ‗love‘ disappeared. The
next time I met with her it was boring. Kissing was boring as well. No bliss, no
love. Only a little lust. No deep conversations. No warmth. I could not ‗feel‘ into
her.
I wanted to have her eagerly sex me, because I became such an unfeeling, yet
needy, person. In fact, when she had a car accident, I couldn‘t even feel sorry for
her or provide a deep connection.
I began experimenting. It seemed that some sexual restraint was necessary to
feel love for a girl. I tried to explain it to her to save my relationship, but it was too
late. LOVE is what everyone wants and a degree of restraint is what gives you
access to LOVE. However, it is hard for people to hear this. They look on the
web and read that sex doesn‘t hurt you at all, and is actually good for you. (The
more the better.) This is what confused me as well until I made my own
experiments.
Can‘t experts do some kind of experiment with couples and see if their love life
improves when they exercise restraint? Or measure memory or sport
performance of people who abstain for a bit? Or IQ? Or attraction for the
opposite sex?