GBS
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Thanks @SimonM . I too was thinking along the same lines but came to the thought that there are literally millions of people watching porn. I think a vast majority will be watching such that they’re changed in the brain. The harm may be small but it may not be. I suppose it’s literally unquantifiable. That said my own personal porn usage, not to underplay it, nor the huge toll on my wife, was in the “a few times a week” category - it descended a little bit but not too low (in my opinion) - but I knew I was hooked because it made me sexualise. I didn’t mentally undress every woman in the street but my mind was creeping in that direction and spare half hours were spent reading erotica or thinking about it and my fantasy sexualised life was what I had. Whether I had a wife/partner or not, I was damaged and ill from my usage (I am avoiding saying addiction).
Does that mean those watching as often as I was were equally (or more) damaged? Don’t know. Presume they were. If someone watches daily - I think my friend is in this category - is it highly likely (nay a certainty) that he is desensitised and lives a sexualised life? I am close to 100% on that one. He won’t care I expect and will say he lives alone, no one is hurt, he loves masturbation, his sexualising is almost his hobby and what is the upside of stopping and being liberated? Is he suddenly going to prefer gardening? Will getting more stuff done elsewhere actually make his life better? I say yes, but he will say no.
The whole subject made me think. You can read all the neurological papers on this, you can watch seminars, you can learn that you’re on the right path and why, BUT how do you sell this to the man (or woman of course) in the street. This all presumes those I am selling to don’t have partners. The sell is way easier for those married ones or in a relationship, but my friend isn’t, nor does he want to be. That’s your homework for tonight, kids. Have your essays on my desk when I’m in tomorrow. I jest. But your comments are invited. Thanks again to @SimonM
Does that mean those watching as often as I was were equally (or more) damaged? Don’t know. Presume they were. If someone watches daily - I think my friend is in this category - is it highly likely (nay a certainty) that he is desensitised and lives a sexualised life? I am close to 100% on that one. He won’t care I expect and will say he lives alone, no one is hurt, he loves masturbation, his sexualising is almost his hobby and what is the upside of stopping and being liberated? Is he suddenly going to prefer gardening? Will getting more stuff done elsewhere actually make his life better? I say yes, but he will say no.
The whole subject made me think. You can read all the neurological papers on this, you can watch seminars, you can learn that you’re on the right path and why, BUT how do you sell this to the man (or woman of course) in the street. This all presumes those I am selling to don’t have partners. The sell is way easier for those married ones or in a relationship, but my friend isn’t, nor does he want to be. That’s your homework for tonight, kids. Have your essays on my desk when I’m in tomorrow. I jest. But your comments are invited. Thanks again to @SimonM