The third one: the glove.
@GBS t you are most decidedly not a twerp. You are bummed out that it took you this long in life to reboot, I’d counter and say a lack of public awareness is why it was never on your radar. Back in your 20’s and 30’s you probably assumed it was normal because back then and even today many would argue sex and porn aren’t addictions though we know better. There is much more material these days (I assume) than there was before. You can’t learn what you don’t know exists. I think you are…..the opposite of twerpy…..you’re a brute! You could have said I am who I am and too set in my ways and not even tried, but instead you challenged yourself and you are crushing it. You may be a lot of things but a twerp is not one of them! You are an inspiration to us allSo…I feel like I am quite a twerp (that’s possibly an English word) that I have rebooted so lat in life. But now I know that I have done this for myself.
Through this process I've found out that while I was waiting for a "romantic" evening on the couch (and he knew I was waiting) he preferred to be up in his office "doing his expenses". Can someone explain to me how if your wife is willing to "have it" as many times a week as you want it you cave to the P, KNOWING she's waiting for you? WTF? (sorry, bit of a trigger). Fast forward more years. Still a habit but now daily uses up your cum which you’re saving for the weekend so we do it less….but we still love it. It;s still free. Unless we’re having once a week (or more) we’d, basically we keep doing it our whole lives.
my wife was the same way, I never got a question when I had an average to above average size load that hits the headboard, but for the times it was below average or not as powerful she’d ask me if I had taken care of myself. I will say this though, just because it’s a below average size load doesn’t mean we’ve been stroking. Other factors go into the amount of volume we produce. I can only speak for myself when I say this but hydration, nutrition, stress, sleep play a role. Also is it a particularly exciting trist? How long did it last? How was the connection between the two of you? Those are some factors that play into it for me. For example this morning I was pleasantly awakened to a hand going down my pants, however we only had like 10 minutes before we had to get the kids up for school. Even though I handnt had a release in a week it wasn’t my best performance. This is because it was a quickie with no build up, it was more business like, we didn’t have a chance to get overly into it. But I can assure you I haven’t taken care of myself in many months.Since piecing this together I've told him "I'm the cum police", meaning no cum means you've been wanking.
Lol Thank you for that!"I'm the cum police", meaning no cum means you've been wanking.
Well put, I agree I think the amount that can freely dabble is few and far between. Once a seed is planted it quickly takes root and you know how that goes from there. I have cut masturbation from my life as well, now the only time I get off is when I’m with my wife. I enjoy it that way. And she gets piece of mind knowing she is also the only one giving me that joy. Not masturbating has made it so much easier to avoid porn all together her as I feel it was my gateway into porn viewing.Thanks @Jlied and @TakeActionNow - the friend I mentioned who would never consider giving up I am as sure as I can be that he's an almost everyday consumer. He's got deep trench neural pathways. He's probably got some serious erectile dysfunction issues. He's a selfish person he freely admits. Not married and able to live a life of sexualising probably seems to him like it's borderline heaven. He's wrong, but he can't imagine what it would be like a year later if he went cold turkey. And sadly if he knew, he still might say on balance I would rather be ill. Thanks but no thanks.
I think there can't be many out there who watch several times a week and aren't hooked and, in some way, affected by their watching. Let's not get into where the line is on addiction. For the record I was actually a reasonably infrequent watcher (at worst say 4 times a week, but I left it alone when I knew sex was offered in the following days - this is not a good quality folks, just the facts), but I knew I sexualised and I read erotica and I knew from my fantasy world I lived in that I had a problem. I think the brain is so easily harmed, and as @Jlied said before there is a rot of your character happening. It may not be much of a rot if you watch twice a week, say, but it is happening.
I accept there will be some who can seriously just dabble and they're not (probably) in too much danger, but I actually think that's way fewer than half the consumers possibly only 10%. Yes @TakeActionNow - too self-centred ...I reckon that's most of them. Would they actually stop if I showed them some of the many YouTube easily consumable science of this? Not a prayer.
It's an epidemic. Masturbation to fantasy (of an impure kind) is also epidemic. That one is trickier - but still I think masturbation when it is a substitute for not trying harder with one's partner is the slippery slope. I was there. I am not anymore.