501 days sober
53 days hard core
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@TryingHarder - keep going yourself. Soon be in the 500 club.
Things are weird. Weird in a good way but still weird. Wife is in US tending to very sick mother. She’s (somewhat unnaturally) a quite amazingly patient carer/nurse. A knock on effect is that she’s really calm and our chats and messages are really sweet and loving. That’s not really weird, or if it is it’s just nice weird.
Here’s what was weird. She’s out there sort of tag teaming with her youngest brother (she has 3 bros) looking after her mum. They were discussing what happens at the end and then as executor of the will, what he needs to get done. So pretty heavy duty. My wife said in such a heavy duty conversation she ended up telling her younger bro that we’d been through a couple if very challenging years with our relationship but we were out the other side and recovered. I think that deserves an exclamation mark ! There we go.
You will agree with me that‘s weird, right. What did I say? Absolutely nothing. I mean what was to be gained In saying “how are we recovered when we’re playing the friend zone game?”. There were alternatives to that response but I don’t need to list them. My positive spin is that she’s genuinely as certain as she can be that we’re getting there, we’re just not actually there yet. But man, it was weird. I am playing this super cool. If there are any moves to be made in the intimacy area, she has to instigate them. The last few times I have talked about loneliness and the need for something more, she has sent us right back to Jail. Do not pass Go, do not collect £200.
We persevere.