What about just picking an activity you like where there might be potential female friends? Hiking? Volunteering? Walking dogs for a local shelter??
Fantastic idea -- I'll do just that. I think Hiking would be a great start. I've used Meetup in the past mostly for nerdy stuff haha (video games, board games) but makes sense to do some out-doors stuff. Great suggestion man!What about just picking an activity you like where there might be potential female friends? Hiking? Volunteering? Walking dogs for a local shelter??
Stay strong brother. These things get better and better. I'm still having my random days of weird dreams, but they have become better as time passes on.Had a porn dream last night which wasn't great but shows that it's still working its way out of my system. Staying strong
Any opportunities for socializing with potential partners?Day 441 no porn
Day 78 no MO
Day 23 cold shower
Another really rough night on sleep sadly. Going to take some Zzzquil tonight (just a short term solution to get rest, NOT a long-term solution). Couple changes I'm making to drive down cortisol levels:
1. Cold showers going to be 3-5min (inspired by @Blondie who takes full showers cold) in evenings when I can use the gym shower which will be 2x a week. Morning ones will continue to be 1min as my dumb shower literally starts warming up after that (wtf)
2. Going to start taking theanine alongside magnesium (which I already take nightly) as the combo is scientifically proven to be safe long-term and potent in facilitating deep sleep
3. Did great with exercise past few weeks (aside from small injury in shoulder which I suspect is contributing to my poor sleep as I'm extremely frustrated that it halted my workout momentum just as I was really gaining steam) with 2-3 days of lifting and 3 days of brisk walking as cardio. No changes here, just need to keep this up!
4. Really considering making journaling as much of a nightly thing as possible. Hard to do 7x a week since I might go to work, then work out and then hang out with friends on a Friday and then don't get back home until midnight. But except for those days, I'm going to journal far more consistently
On the positive side, had a random boner while hanging out with my roommate a few nights back. Wasn't talking about anything sexual or even thinking about anything sexual, I used a pillow to cover it up lol. Guess that's a good sign as I don't recall having many (or any) random boners prior to porn reboot, really something that used to happening more in high school if I remember correctly
Fuck yeah.Looking forward to reaching 90 days on Sunday
I know what you mean man! I've been getting random boners just hanging out with friends and the 'how do I hide this' is certainly becoming a bigger focus hahaFucking hero.
Yeah I wouldn't worry about having a boner every living moment, it's just not feasible, much less practical! It happened a couple of times to me last year at school, which was great because it did show me I'm on the road to recovery, however, when you have to stop and think - how do I hide this? - you feel like you're thirteen again.
Thanks brother, the path to becoming a real man is incredibly windy but generally feels like it's on the up!Fuck yeah.
Love you man, and congrats on the talking to girls and losing the weight.
Hey brother good question -- I was going to reach out to you close to when you hit 30 days and follow up on how you are feeling haha. The big benefits for me that I've noticed at least are: