A fresh start for a mountain goat ⛰️

the_mountain_goat

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Hi guys.

It's been a while. I stopped counting. There were 3 or 4 relapses since my last post here. I am wondering why it is hard for me to stick to good habits. I know this addiction is controlling me a lot. It's also taking some opportunities off of me, taking some energy. Feeling a bit tired of these relapses.

I threw toys again tonight. Toys I had re-bought. I know they are not good. I can do without them. I hope this will help me.

The week ahead will be a nice one now. I'm still grateful for good times with family and friends recently. A few things to look forward to... Some hiking, some climbing, some celebration...

I'm thinking I might need some structure and goals in the coming weeks. I figured I want them to be centered around three things:
  1. Climbing (maybe start a training routine to get build up strength?)
  2. Photography/videography
  3. Biking
Will start a NEW counter here. Will try the good old counter for a while, and see what that does...

So... Here it goes:

DAY 0
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🟪 (real sex) 🟦 (MO, no P) 🟩 (no PMO) 🟨 relapse
 

Trisquel

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Hi guys.

It's been a while. I stopped counting. There were 3 or 4 relapses since my last post here. I am wondering why it is hard for me to stick to good habits. I know this addiction is controlling me a lot. It's also taking some opportunities off of me, taking some energy. Feeling a bit tired of these relapses.

I threw toys again tonight. Toys I had re-bought. I know they are not good. I can do without them. I hope this will help me.

The week ahead will be a nice one now. I'm still grateful for good times with family and friends recently. A few things to look forward to... Some hiking, some climbing, some celebration...

I'm thinking I might need some structure and goals in the coming weeks. I figured I want them to be centered around three things:
  1. Climbing (maybe start a training routine to get build up strength?)
  2. Photography/videography
  3. Biking
Will start a NEW counter here. Will try the good old counter for a while, and see what that does...

So... Here it goes:

DAY 0
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🟪 (real sex) 🟦 (MO, no P) 🟩 (no PMO) 🟨 relapse
Good luck! It's been a weird period for everyone, it seems....
Hope you get back on track.
Much love,

Trisquel
 

TypeN

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Sorry to hear that things have been challenging, @the_mountain_goat. I have experienced a lot of what you're talking about with the multiple relapses lately -- I know that's not fun.

It's been a while. I stopped counting. There were 3 or 4 relapses since my last post here. I am wondering why it is hard for me to stick to good habits. I know this addiction is controlling me a lot. It's also taking some opportunities off of me, taking some energy. Feeling a bit tired of these relapses.

About this, I think maybe it's important to remind yourself that this is exactly what addiction does; control us. If it didn't, we would have no trouble stopping. So I hope you can not be so hard on yourself.

We've all been in a slump like @Trisquel says but I'm looking forward to seeing us get back on our feet. Let's do this!
 

the_mountain_goat

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Thanks for your support guys. Weird times indeed! Let's get back up now.

The last three days have been better. I spent a lot of time outside, enjoying summer in the mountains, without over doing it. Yet, although my body is doing better, I want to avoid AGAIN putting all of my energy in physical mountain activities only (and, get injured!) I'm not just a mountain goat, I'm a cinema, photography, and literature goat (and I'm working in developing these other aspects of my life).

Tomorrow will be focused on work (which means body rest day hehe).

I saw my therapist today (it had been a while). Very good progress on the "why" behind my relapses and porn in general. Two things are starting to emerge (or, re-emerge)...
  1. Fear of loneliness. I live a very social life, where I tend to forget myself. And often I go through intensely social life moments (from a few days to a few weeks), and then suddenly find myself alone -once I'm back home from a trip or something, for instance. And maybe not afraid of it the lack of transition makes it so that porn becomes a tempting way to fill in a void. That's IF I don't anticipate that transition time. Which has tended to happen recently.
  2. Fear of being in a sexual and romantic relationship. Maybe I was a bit scared by previous relationships and unconsciously try to protect myself by sabotaging my opportunities (i.e. porn relapses since they reduce my desire to 0) - also sometimes a belief that "anyways nothing will happen to me these days so it's OK to do porn".
Tomorrow I will be at home working so I will need to be mindful and watch for triggers. Will try and do some "healthy" breaks like yoga, coffee outside... And I've got nice plans for the weekend to look forward to.
 

TypeN

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Great stuff dude. I think what you're describing is a perfect case of how stumbling can also be a form of progress, because here you have come out of it with a deeper, thoughtful understanding of yourself. That's really nice.

Hope your weekend plans treat you well. 🙏
 

the_mountain_goat

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Good super productive day! All the while taking care of myself.

Fun ahead tonight. It's Bastille Day here.

Trying to keep the two 'fears' identified earlier in my mind and see how they manifest in my daily life (and how they might influence triggers!).
 

the_mountain_goat

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Very lovely weekend. Good balance between social and physical activities! Had a bit of a crazy hangover Saturday morning, which led me to be super healthy afterwards. Went on an awesome bike ride today, and went swimming both today and yesterday.

Very stimulating times with all the activities. Yet found some time in the afternoon today to chill and get into a book I was struggling to immerse myself in. Same thing tonight after writing this post.

Need to learn how to "land" after such stimulating times. And actually, to make sure I keep some time for myself to land. The eternal struggle when you're a little hyperactive...! :)
 

the_mountain_goat

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Good last two days.

Productive at home yesterday with work. Then took some time to chill in the sun and read a book. Spent a nice movie evening with friends afterwards.

Today will be busy with a workout and work in the morning / early afternoon. Then some sun chill time. Then thinking of going climbing with a friend.

Might have a few triggers here and there today as I'm alone. I have a good book with me, and some good plans to keep me busy, should be alright!
 
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the_mountain_goat

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UPDATE: MOed this afternoon. I was tempted to surf for P but didn't. Instead focused on myself, relaxing, and enjoying.

I'm fine as long as this doesn't happen again until at least 8 more days.

One big question that came up as I was doing this was "OK, I'm enjoying sex on my own, that's one thing, but how might I enjoy sex with other people these days?" - I think I need a little kick in the butt sort to speak, from myself, to put myself a little more out there (and overcome that fear identified above, the one of having good sexual/romantic relationships with people).

Glad this made me reflect on that!

Wanted to write here after MOing to commit to no more, as the chaser effect today/tomorrow can become strong!
 

the_mountain_goat

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I have relapsed. Causes: (a) chaser effect. And (b) impact of having been stimulated by a lot of life stuff recently, incl. work, which sort of completed this morning. And was left with that void... (nothing stimulating to do) Classic! At least I'm figuring this out/identifying that recurring pattern.

Why am I trying to fill this void with porn? How might I 'enjoy' the void i.e. enjoy calm, peace and do 'light touch' activities during these moments...? How might I avoid the black hole that is porn?

I'm using black hole to show how hard to resist it once it is close by in my head...

Rest of the day should be fine. Meeting up with a friend.

Also realizing that during these chaotic times, 7/8 days is usually a moment when triggers are more difficult to resist!
 

the_mountain_goat

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Somehow I keep relapsing. And only post here when I do so.

One thought occurred to me: I'll keep using porn for as long as I'll believe there's nothing 'better' I can do romantically and sexually do with someone.

So, on top of developing all these other activities that make me happy (reading, mountain sports, photography, hanging out with friends), I need to start believing in myself when it comes to romance and sex. How can I break this down?
  • Trying to appreciate my looks, and make myself look nice/desirable (but something that I like)
    • This may mean working out more?
    • Appreciate the recognition I get on this from friends who've voiced it out
  • Trying to appreciate my personality: I do believe it is an attractive one!
Maybe defining these two things further for myself... Like: what looks good about me, and what is cool about my personality?

And then, the BIG step... Having harnessed these two pillars of self appreciation/confidence... I need to put myself out there!

Personal brainstorm...

Pilar one:
  • Body is in good shape and muscular
  • I really like my eyes and the way I look at someone
Pilar two, I...
  • Listen
  • Am curious and sensitive
  • Love to laugh and can be funny!
  • Am caring
  • Am generous and love to share my passions with others
  • Mindful of other's feelings and reactions
 

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Hi all.

Doing well.

Stopped alcohol at the same time as last week's relapse. Feels good too.

Interestingly, my last relapse was a bit unsatisfying in the sense that as it was happening I had this screaming realization that I wasn't enjoying it. And that feeling stuck with me since, and that's helped me wanting to stay PMO free!

I've been reading @Androg's suggestion. Quite an interesting read.

We tend to think of porn as a tug-of-war: on one side is fear, “It’s unhealthy, filthy and enslaving.” On the other side, the positives: “It’s my pleasure, my friend, my crutch.” It never seems to occur to us this side is also fear; it’s not that we enjoy porn, it’s that we tend to be miserable without it. Heroin addicts deprived of heroin go through misery, but picture the utter joy when they’re finally allowed to plunge a needle into their vein and end that terrible craving. Try to imagine how anyone could actually believe they get pleasure from sticking a hypodermic syringe into a vein. Non-heroin addicts don’t suffer that panic feeling and heroin doesn’t relieve the feeling, it causes it.

Non-users don’t feel miserable if they aren’t allowed to use porn — it’s only users that suffer that feeling. Internet porn doesn’t relieve the feeling, it causes it.

Big importance given to "brainwashing" that we have to deconstruct, something I also stated earlier in my thread... I.E. that porn DOESN'T RELIEVE the follow: Stress, Boredom, Lack of Concentration/Relaxation/Energy! On the contrary!

Effects of the brainwashing make us tend to think like the man who, having fallen off a 100-storey building, is quoted saying as he whizzes past the fiftieth floor, “So far, so good!” We think that as we’ve gotten away with it so far, one more porn session won’t make the difference. See it another way: the ‘habit’ is a continuous chain for life with each session creating the need for the next.
 

the_mountain_goat

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Just read chapters 11-19 of the EasyPeasy book! Here are some exerts copied that I found cool/useful for me to go back to later.

If you were to sit down and give points to the advantages of stopping and compare them to the advantages of porn, the total point count for stopping would far outweigh any ‘disadvantages’. If you employ Pascal’s Wager, by quitting you’re losing almost nothing, with high chances of gains and higher chances of not losing. Although the user knows that they’ll be better off as a non-user, the belief they’re making a sacrifice trips them up. Although an illusion, it’s powerful. They don’t know why, but the user has the belief that during the good and bad times of life, the sessions appear to help.

So instead of starting with the feeling, “Great! Have you heard the news? I don’t need to watch porn any more!”, they start instead with feelings of doom and gloom — as if trying to climb Everest — and they falsely determine that once the little monster has its hooks into you, you’re hooked for life. Many users start the attempt by apologising to their girlfriends or wives, “Look, I’m trying to give up porn. I’ll probably be irritable for the next couple of weeks, so try to bear with me.Most attempts are doomed before they begin.

The little monster knows this, and starts up the big brainwashing monster, causing the same person who was a few hours or days earlier listing all of the reasons to stop, to now desperately search for any excuse to start again. They begin saying things like:
  • I can’t concentrate, I’m getting irritable and bad-tempered, I can’t even do my job properly.
  • My family and friends won’t love me. Let’s face it, for everybody’s sake I have to start again. I’m a confirmed sex addict and there’s no way I’ll ever be happy again without an orgasm.
At this stage, the user usually gives in. Firing up the browser, the schizophrenia increases. On one hand there’s the tremendous relief of ending the craving as the little monster finally gets its fix; on the other hand, the orgasm is awful and the user cannot understand why they’re doing it.

Many ex-users will have the occasional session as a ‘special treat’ or to convince themselves how strong their self-control is. It does exactly that — but as soon as their session ends the dopamine starts to leave and a little voice at the back of their mind begins driving them towards another one.

About "cutting down" dragging you down:
They’re stuck with the worst of all worlds, still addicted to internet porn and keeping the monster alive not only in their body, but in their mind

The real problem when stopping is brainwashing, an illusion of entitlement that internet porn is some sort of prop or reward and life will never be the same without it. Far from turning you off internet porn, all that cutting down accomplishes is leaving you feeling insecure and miserable, convincing you that the most precious thing on this earth is the new clip you missed, that there’s no way you’ll be happy again without seeing it.

Removal of the brainwashing is essential to remove illusions about porn before you extinguish that final session. Unless you’ve removed the illusion that you enjoy it before you close that window, there’s no way you can prove it afterwards without getting hooked again. When hovering over bookmarks and saved pictures, ask yourself where the glory in this action is.

The nature of any addiction is wanting more and more, not less and less. Therefore in order to cut down, the user has to exercise willpower and discipline for the rest of their lives. So, cutting down means willpower and discipline forever. Stopping is far easier and less painful; there are literally tens of thousands of cases in which cutting down has failed.

“Just one peek” is a myth that you must remove from your mind! It’s the thought of ‘one special session’ that often prevents users from stopping, the one after your long conference trip, hard day at work, fight with the kids, or incident where your partner rejects you for sex. Get it firmly in your mind that there’s no such thing as ‘just one peek’. It’s a chain reaction that will last the rest of your life unless broken.

Whenever you think about porn, see a filthy lifetime of spending eons behind a screen for the privilege of destroying yourself mentally and physically
— a lifetime of slavery and hopelessness.

It’s okay we can’t always come up with ‘something to do’ for the void; doing that isn’t realistically possible in every instance for our entire lives. We can plan for most of them, but sometimes it just happens. Good and bad times also happen, irrespective of porn. But get it clearly into your mind, the porn isn’t it. You’re stuck with either a lifetime of misery or none at all.

Stop kidding yourself! You can do it, anybody can. It’s ridiculously easy but in order to make it so, there are certain fundamentals to get clear in your mind.
  1. There’s nothing to give up, only marvellous positive gains to achieve.
  2. Never convince yourself of the odd ‘no-big-deal’ or ‘just-one-peek’ session. It doesn’t exist. There’s only a lifetime of filth and slavery.
  3. There’s nothing different about you; any user can find it easy to stop.
Many users believe that they’re confirmed addicts or have addictive personalities. This usually happens as a result of reading excessive amounts of shocking neuroscience. There’s no such thing, nobody is born with the need to masturbate to video clips before they became hooked. It’s the drug that hooks you, not the nature of your character or personality. The nature of addictive supernormal stimulus makes you believe this is the case.

The “I Only Watch Static/Tame/Home-Made Porn” User - Yes, everyone does this to start with, but isn’t it amazing how the average shock-value of the clips seems to rapidly increase, and before we know it we’re feeling deprived (tolerance)? The novelty lacks with static porn, so we pay the piper for a cup of grease and ride down the water slide towards resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is use your partner’s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because in the process you’re re-wiring your brain for the seeking-, searching- and variety-induced dopamine flushes. Chemically, the porn water slides in the brain is DeltaFosB building up, so you’ll find yourself having difficulties when you’re with them in real time.

Another trap in this category is ‘amateur’ and ‘home-made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it, plus you’re also not going to stop at the very first one that hits your eyes, instead continuing to seek and search. Remember, it’s not only orgasm the brain seeks, but the novelty of the hunt that gives the water slide its thrill. The porn content isn’t the issue — whether amateur or professional — it’s the flushes of dopamine in the brain causing build-up of tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operation, masturbation confusing the muscle–brain response; orgasm floods the brain with opioids and makes the pathway easier to follow next time.
 

the_mountain_goat

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And.... more notes!

All you ever enjoy in porn is ending the craving that started before it, whether the almost-imperceptible physical craving, or the mental torture of not being allowed to scratch the itch

Problems faced with websites like Twitch, Instagram, TikTok, Twitter (and most social media) are primarily driven by supplementation. Driven by novelty-seeking dopamine urges, they trick themselves into believing they’re on a safe site. Remember — the thrill is in seeking, not killing, and the little monster doesn’t care where its fix comes from. For the user, the ‘soft’ content received in their various online feeds gives them fleeting relief of withdrawal pangs, keeping them hooked and waiting for their next session.

The most significant trend noticed on forums is the increasing emphasis on the anti-social aspects of porn.

Will I miss the fun?
No! Once the little porn monster is dead, after your body stops craving dopamine, and the porn water slides in your brain rapidly begin to fade due to lack of ‘greasing’, any remaining brainwashing will vanish.
Not only will you find yourself both physically and mentally better equipped to handle the stresses and strains of life, but you’ll enjoy the good times to the fullest.

‘Just one peek.’ Remember, it doesn’t exist. Stop seeing the isolated occasion and start looking at it from the point of view of the porn user. You might be envying them, but they don’t approve of themselves, and they envy you. If only you could somehow clinically watch another user, as they can be the most powerful boost of all to help you out of it. Notice how quickly they open many tabs and browser windows? Fast forwarding to the important sections, quickly getting bored of clips and running through the gamut of genres producing novelty, shock, anxiety, etc. Notice particularly that the act appears to be automatic. Remember — they aren’t enjoying it, it’s that they can’t enjoy themselves without it. The next morning, waking up with a weakened will, lost energy and bleary eyes, they’ll have to continue choking themselves at the first appearance of stress and strain. They’re facing a lifetime of filth, poor mental health and stained confidence — a lifetime of destroying themselves with black shadows at the back of their mind. To achieve what purpose? The illusion you’re getting what you ‘deserve’ and damned pleasure?

You wouldn’t envy a heroin addict, and like all drug addiction, yours won’t get any better. Each year it’ll get exponentially worse — if you don’t enjoy being a user today, you’ll enjoy it even less tomorrow. Don’t envy other users, pity them. Believe me: They need your pity!
 

the_mountain_goat

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The thinking around the EasyPeasy book is helping me a lot. Just finished the book today!

Some key passages.

Providing you follow the instructions, you’ll find that stopping ranges from relatively easy to enjoyable! Provided you follow the instructions below it’s ridiculously easy to stop porn. All you have to do is two things:
  1. Make the decision that you are never going to watch porn again.
  2. Don’t mope about it. Rejoice.
You’re probably asking, “Why the need for the rest of the book? Why couldn’t you have said that in the first place?” Well, the answer is that you’d have eventually moped about it and consequently eventually changed your decision. You’ve probably already done that many times before. (Mope: to be unhappy and unwilling to think or act in a positive way, especially because of a disappointment)

It took me a long time to work out why it had been so easy and why I hadn’t suffered those terrifying withdrawal pangs. The reason is that they don’t exist, it’s the doubt and uncertainty that creates pangs. The beautiful truth is that it’s easy to stop porn. It’s only indecision and moping that makes it difficult. Even while addicted, users can go for relatively long periods at certain times without it. It’s only when you want it, but can’t have it, that you suffer.

Therefore, the key to making it easy is to make stopping certain and final. Not hoping, but knowing you’ve kicked it, having made the decision. Never doubt or question it, in fact, just the reverse — always rejoicing! If you can be certain from the start, it’ll be easy.

Therefore, the key to making it easy is to make stopping certain and final. Not hoping, but knowing you’ve kicked it, having made the decision.
There are certain essential points necessary to get clear in your mind before you start:
  1. Realise you can achieve it.
  2. There’s absolutely nothing to give up. On the contrary, there’s enormous positive gains to be made.
  3. There’s no such thing as a peek or a single visit.
  4. See porn not as a ‘boys-will-be-boys’ habit that might injure you, but as drug addiction.
  5. Separate the disease — the neurological addiction — from the mindset of being a user or not. All users, if given the opportunity to go back to the time before they became hooked, would jump at the opportunity. You have that opportunity today! Don’t even think about it as ‘giving up’.
Rejoice in the fact, don’t sit around moping and waiting for the chemical addiction to go. Get out and enjoy life immediately.

You should now have feelings of excitement, like a dog straining at the leash, unable to wait to break down the DeltaFosB porn water slides.

For up to three weeks after your last session you may be subjected to withdrawal pangs. These consist of two quite separate but distinct factors:
  1. Dopamine withdrawal pangs. An empty, insecure feeling similar to hunger, identified as cravings or a ‘something-I-must-do’ feeling.
  2. Psychological triggers of certain external stimuli such as commercials, online browsing, telephone conversations, etc.
 

the_mountain_goat

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And... more of it!

After abstaining for a few days on the willpower method, the craving for dopamine flushes soon disappears. It’s the second factor — brainwashing — that causes difficulty. The user has gotten into the habit of relieving their withdrawal pangs at certain times and certain occasions, which causes an association of ideas (“I’ve got a hard on, so I must watch porn.” or “I’m in bed with my laptop and I must have a session to feel happy”).

You’ll think about wanting a session, so therefore countering the brainwashing is essential right from square one and will cause these cues and triggers to quickly disappear. Under the willpower method, because the user believes they’re making a sacrifice, they’re moping about it and waiting for urges to leave, the opposite of removing these trigger mechanisms, and actually ends up increasing them.

After abandoning the concept of porn as pleasurable in itself, many users think “If only there were clean internet porn.There is clean soft porn, and any who try it soon find out that it’s a waste of time. Get it clear in your mind that the only reason you’ve been using porn is getting the dopamine flush. Once rid of the dopamine craving for porn you’ll have no need to visit your online harem.

The point being that you have no need to forget, since nothing bad is happening. In fact, something marvellous and wonderful is happening and even if you’re thinking about it a thousand times a day, savor each moment, remind yourself of how marvellous it is to be free again. Remind yourself of the sheer joy of not having to torture yourself anymore. As said previously, you’ll find that pangs become moments of pleasure, being surprised how quickly you’ll then forget about porn.

Remember: you have incredibly powerful reasons for stopping in the first place.

For most users, their first peek at the tube site harem was not as good as sex with a real person. The clips that are clean are few and far between, giving their conscious minds a boost, thinking, “Good, that wasn’t entirely all that enjoyable. I’m losing the urge and am not that into the shocking stuff.” In fact, the reverse is the case. Get it clear in your mind, enjoyment of orgasm wasn’t the reason you quit porn. If users were there for orgasm alone, they’d never watch more than one clip. The only reason why you needed porn was feeding that little monster. Just think, after being starved for four days how precious that one peek must have been to it. Your conscious mind is unaware, but the fix your body received is communicated to your subconscious, and all your sound preparation will be undermined. There’ll be a little voice at the back of your mind saying that, in spite of all logic, the sessions are precious and you want another one.

That little peek has two damaging effects:
  1. It keeps the little monster alive in your body.
  2. Worse, it keeps the big monster alive in your mind. If you had the ‘last peek’, it’ll be easier to have the next one.
Above all, remember:

‘Just one peek’ is how people get into the addiction in the first place.

Some examples of substitutes include restricting to porn magazines, static internet images, porn diets, etc. DO NOT USE ANY OF THEM. They make it harder, not easier. If you do get a pang and use a substitute it will just prolong the pang, making it harder.

Usually within three weeks post-escape, ex-users experience the moment of revelation.
The sky appears to become brighter and it’s the moment when the brainwashing ends completely. When instead of telling yourself you don’t need to watch porn, you suddenly realise that the last thread is broken and you can enjoy the rest of your life without ever needing it again. It’s also from this point that you usually start looking at users as objects of pity.

Quitters using the willpower method don’t normally experience this moment because although they’re glad to be ex-users, they continue moving through life believing they’re making a sacrifice.
 

the_mountain_goat

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The FINAL CHECKLIST!
  1. Make a solemn vow that you’ll never, ever, go online to visit your harem OR settle for static pictures OR make peace with erotic graphics OR anything that contains supernormal stimuli, and stick to your vow.
  2. Get this clear in your mind: There’s absolutely nothing to give up. What’s meant is there’s no genuine pleasure or crutch in PMOing. It’s just an illusion, like banging your head against a wall to get pleasure when you stop.
  3. There’s no such thing as a confirmed PMOer. You’re just one of the hundreds of millions who’ve fallen for the subtle trap.
  4. If at any time in your life you were to weigh up the pros and cons of PMOing, the overwhelming conclusion would always be Stop doing it. You’re a fool!
  5. Don’t try not to think about porn, or worry that you’re thinking about it constantly. Whenever you do think about it, whether today, tomorrow, or the rest of your life, think “YIPPEE! I’M A NON-PMOer!”
  6. Do not use any form of substitute. Do not challenge yourself by keeping your laptop next to you while you sleep. Do not avoid plays, movies or magazines. Do not change your lifestyle in any way purely because you’ve stopped. If you follow the above instructions, you’ll soon experience the ‘moment of revelation’, but, don’t wait for the ‘moment of revelation’ to come. Just get on with your life, enjoying the highs and coping with the lows. You’ll find in no time at all the moment will arrive.
Overall, a super stimulating read. And I like the focus on the 'brainwashing' part, which was indeed behind most of my relapses. Changing one's mindset and not see this as a constraint I'm putting on myself, but rather as an opportunity to REJOICE!
 
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The FINAL CHECKLIST!
  1. Make a solemn vow that you’ll never, ever, go online to visit your harem OR settle for static pictures OR make peace with erotic graphics OR anything that contains supernormal stimuli, and stick to your vow.
  2. Get this clear in your mind: There’s absolutely nothing to give up. What’s meant is there’s no genuine pleasure or crutch in PMOing. It’s just an illusion, like banging your head against a wall to get pleasure when you stop.
  3. There’s no such thing as a confirmed PMOer. You’re just one of the hundreds of millions who’ve fallen for the subtle trap.
  4. If at any time in your life you were to weigh up the pros and cons of PMOing, the overwhelming conclusion would always be Stop doing it. You’re a fool!
  5. Don’t try not to think about porn, or worry that you’re thinking about it constantly. Whenever you do think about it, whether today, tomorrow, or the rest of your life, think “YIPPEE! I’M A NON-PMOer!”
  6. Do not use any form of substitute. Do not challenge yourself by keeping your laptop next to you while you sleep. Do not avoid plays, movies or magazines. Do not change your lifestyle in any way purely because you’ve stopped. If you follow the above instructions, you’ll soon experience the ‘moment of revelation’, but, don’t wait for the ‘moment of revelation’ to come. Just get on with your life, enjoying the highs and coping with the lows. You’ll find in no time at all the moment will arrive.
Overall, a super stimulating read. And like the focus on the 'brainwashing' part, which was indeed behind most of my relapses. Changing one's mindset and not see this as a constraint I'm putting on myself, but rather as an opportunity to REJOICE!
Thank you for posting these clips and for your feedback about this method. I’m glad you have found it helpful.
 
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