If you were to sit down and give points to the advantages of stopping and compare them to the advantages of porn, the total point count for stopping would far outweigh any ‘disadvantages’. If you employ Pascal’s Wager,
by quitting you’re losing almost nothing, with high chances of gains and higher chances of
not losing. Although the user knows that they’ll be better off as a non-user,
the belief they’re making a sacrifice trips them up. Although an illusion, it’s powerful.
They don’t know why, but the user has the belief that during the good and bad times of life, the sessions appear to help.
So instead of starting with the feeling, “Great! Have you heard the news? I don’t need to watch porn any more!”, they start instead with feelings of doom and gloom — as if trying to climb Everest — and they falsely determine that once the little monster has its hooks into you, you’re hooked for life. Many users start the attempt by apologising to their girlfriends or wives, “
Look, I’m trying to give up porn. I’ll probably be irritable for the next couple of weeks, so try to bear with me.”
Most attempts are doomed before they begin.
The little monster knows this, and starts up the big brainwashing monster, causing the same person who was a few hours or days earlier listing all of the reasons to stop, to now desperately search for any excuse to start again. They begin saying things like:
- “I can’t concentrate, I’m getting irritable and bad-tempered, I can’t even do my job properly.”
- “My family and friends won’t love me. Let’s face it, for everybody’s sake I have to start again. I’m a confirmed sex addict and there’s no way I’ll ever be happy again without an orgasm.”
At this stage, the user usually gives in. Firing up the browser, the schizophrenia increases. On one hand there’s the tremendous relief of ending the craving as the little monster finally gets its fix; on the other hand, the orgasm is awful and the user cannot understand why they’re doing it.
Many ex-users will have the occasional session as a ‘special treat’ or to convince themselves how strong their self-control is. It does exactly that — but
as soon as their session ends the dopamine starts to leave and a little voice at the back of their mind begins driving them towards another one.
About "cutting down" dragging you down:
They’re stuck with the worst of all worlds, still addicted to internet porn and keeping the monster alive not only in their body, but in their mind
The real problem when stopping is brainwashing, an illusion of entitlement that internet porn is some sort of prop or reward and life will never be the same without it. Far from turning you off internet porn, all that cutting down accomplishes is leaving you feeling insecure and miserable, convincing you that the most precious thing on this earth is the new clip you missed, that there’s no way you’ll be happy again without seeing it.
Removal of the brainwashing is essential to remove illusions about porn before you extinguish that final session. Unless you’ve removed the illusion that you enjoy it before you close that window, there’s no way you can prove it afterwards without getting hooked again. When hovering over bookmarks and saved pictures, ask yourself where the glory in this action is.
The nature of any addiction is wanting more and more, not less and less. Therefore in order to cut down, the user has to exercise willpower and discipline for the rest of their lives. So, cutting down means willpower and discipline forever. Stopping is far easier and less painful; there are literally tens of thousands of cases in which cutting down has failed.
“Just one peek” is a myth that you must remove from your mind! It’s the thought of ‘one special session’ that often prevents users from stopping, the one after your long conference trip, hard day at work, fight with the kids, or incident where your partner rejects you for sex. Get it firmly in your mind that there’s no such thing as ‘just one peek’. It’s a chain reaction that will last the rest of your life unless broken.
Whenever you think about porn, see a filthy lifetime of spending eons behind a screen for the privilege of destroying yourself mentally and physically — a lifetime of slavery and hopelessness.
It’s okay we can’t always come up with ‘something to do’ for the void; doing that isn’t realistically possible in every instance for our entire lives. We can plan for most of them, but sometimes it just happens. Good and bad times also happen, irrespective of porn. But get it clearly into your mind, the porn isn’t it. You’re stuck with either a lifetime of misery or none at all.
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top kidding yourself! You can do it, anybody can. It’s ridiculously easy but in order to make it so, there are certain fundamentals to get clear in your mind.
- There’s nothing to give up, only marvellous positive gains to achieve.
- Never convince yourself of the odd ‘no-big-deal’ or ‘just-one-peek’ session. It doesn’t exist. There’s only a lifetime of filth and slavery.
- There’s nothing different about you; any user can find it easy to stop.
Many users believe that they’re confirmed addicts or have addictive personalities. This usually happens as a result of reading excessive amounts of shocking neuroscience. There’s no such thing, nobody is born with the need to masturbate to video clips before they became hooked. It’s the drug that hooks you, not the nature of your character or personality. The nature of addictive supernormal stimulus makes you believe this is the case.
The “I Only Watch Static/Tame/Home-Made Porn” User - Yes, everyone does this to start with, but isn’t it amazing how the average shock-value of the clips seems to rapidly increase, and before we know it we’re feeling deprived (tolerance)?
The novelty lacks with static porn, so we pay the piper for a cup of grease and ride down the water slide towards resentment and guilt. The worst thing you can do is use your partner’s pictures (with approval, of course) for masturbation. Why? Because in the process you’re re-wiring your brain for the seeking-, searching- and variety-induced dopamine flushes. Chemically, the porn water slides in the brain is DeltaFosB building up, so you’ll find yourself having difficulties when you’re with them in real time.
Another trap in this category is ‘amateur’ and ‘home-made’ porn. Most are fakes and you know it, plus you’re also not going to stop at the very first one that hits your eyes, instead continuing to seek and search.
Remember, it’s not only orgasm the brain seeks, but the novelty of the hunt that gives the water slide its thrill. The porn content isn’t the issue — whether amateur or professional — it’s the flushes of dopamine in the brain causing build-up of tolerance and satiation. Porn destroys normal brain operation, masturbation confusing the muscle–brain response; orgasm floods the brain with opioids and makes the pathway easier to follow next time.
(real sex) 
(MO, no P) 
(no PMO) 
