Unchained,
Fabulous! That's a perfect way of looking at this. You are right. Framing it as a battle holds out the hope that, no matter how remote the chance may be, we still MIGHT be able to look at porn occasionally, in a controlled way, like a non-addict. And I truly believe, just like alcohol for me, that I can never drink or watch porn "normally".
I am in the acceptance phase. I completely know that I am addicted to porn. No question in my mind. Even if I hadn't known before I seriously tried to quit, I certainly know now, after many failed attempts and tons of withdrawal. I think it's good advice to now surrender to it, rather than fight it thinking I can win. I can't. And I'm not fighting porn. I'm fighting my brain, dopamine, and neural pathways I've burned into it. Neural pathways from a fake stimuli - porn. And no matter how many days/weeks/months/years I put between my brain and porn, I know if I use porn again, those same neural pathways will light up and re-fire, just like old times.
Surrender to win! I like it!
Fabulous! That's a perfect way of looking at this. You are right. Framing it as a battle holds out the hope that, no matter how remote the chance may be, we still MIGHT be able to look at porn occasionally, in a controlled way, like a non-addict. And I truly believe, just like alcohol for me, that I can never drink or watch porn "normally".
I am in the acceptance phase. I completely know that I am addicted to porn. No question in my mind. Even if I hadn't known before I seriously tried to quit, I certainly know now, after many failed attempts and tons of withdrawal. I think it's good advice to now surrender to it, rather than fight it thinking I can win. I can't. And I'm not fighting porn. I'm fighting my brain, dopamine, and neural pathways I've burned into it. Neural pathways from a fake stimuli - porn. And no matter how many days/weeks/months/years I put between my brain and porn, I know if I use porn again, those same neural pathways will light up and re-fire, just like old times.
Surrender to win! I like it!