TK-421
Active Member
Day 18
Day 18, take 2. I haven't checked in for a while. Things are going well. A part of me feels like I just need to "hang around" to get back to where I was before the stumble (at 58 days) and not put as much work in. In some ways the stumble was good for me because it reinforced the fact that as soon as I entertain any thought of using I am right back in the "Funhouse" and out of control. For me there is no middle ground. I am working on recognizing the unhealthy thoughts and fantasy that lead me to porn. I just cannot linger checking out any attractive women or titilating photos I encounter. One of the other posters on here suggested the 2 second rule, which works for me. If I see an attractive woman it is normal that I will notice her and find her attractive. I can acknowledge this thought, but if it is more than 2 seconds, then I am on the road to unhealthy fantasy and obsession. For me this can lead back to porn, which feeds the unhealthy fantasy and obsession. That's the cycle that I need to break free of. There is just no room for any of that in my vision of a healthy sexuality.
Hope all are well.
TK-421
Day 18, take 2. I haven't checked in for a while. Things are going well. A part of me feels like I just need to "hang around" to get back to where I was before the stumble (at 58 days) and not put as much work in. In some ways the stumble was good for me because it reinforced the fact that as soon as I entertain any thought of using I am right back in the "Funhouse" and out of control. For me there is no middle ground. I am working on recognizing the unhealthy thoughts and fantasy that lead me to porn. I just cannot linger checking out any attractive women or titilating photos I encounter. One of the other posters on here suggested the 2 second rule, which works for me. If I see an attractive woman it is normal that I will notice her and find her attractive. I can acknowledge this thought, but if it is more than 2 seconds, then I am on the road to unhealthy fantasy and obsession. For me this can lead back to porn, which feeds the unhealthy fantasy and obsession. That's the cycle that I need to break free of. There is just no room for any of that in my vision of a healthy sexuality.
Hope all are well.
TK-421