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Hey SOs - Just wanted to give you all an update. Have been in INTENSE Betrayal therapy for a couple of months now. Soul wrenching, deep dive, gut tearing work. I’m starting to see some benefit. What I have learned - 1. The addiction is his, not mine. He is the addict. I choose NOT to be a part...

Hey Folks I know I have been pretty quiet the past couple of weeks - I appreciate all of you who have DM’d me - means a ton! This community serves me well. Just wanted to let you know that while my spouse approaches his 90 day sobriety - I have begun to start my own healing process. All the...

As a couple (if you can refer to us as that) we are 60+ days out from his D-Day. Lots of friends, family and acquaintances have noticed “something is up” with us as a couple - missed engagements, declinations of party invites, etc. What I am frustrated with is I can’t give anyone an honest...

Hey fellow SOs - I have decided to make this a thread that I comment on - I just looked at the past two months and there were a lot of my avatars lined up and I don’t want to scare any others away - Who is this nutball crying out for help so often. So…back to the topic above. Since D-Day, I am...

Hey Fam: So…..friends, colleagues and some family have approached me over the past week asking “is everything ok?” “You don’t seem yourself?” “Is everything ok?” - I value my professionalism and my “game face” - but apparently I am not doing a good job and wearing my heart on my sleeve. I’ve...

Hey Y’all - This is more of a share with my compadres than anything meaningful or prolific. Last night, husband comes home from one of his meetings…sex addicts, porn addicts, one of them. I’m on the phone talking with a friend and he passive-aggressively asks me to speak with him. *Important...

Got to a spot where I couldn’t keep this “in the house” and “in the therapist’s office” - My close friend circle started noticing and asking. So I have shared the current situation with my best gay and straight friends - 1 woman and 3 men. Once one phone call was done - the others came easy. I...

I am and always have been a risk averse person - limit risk, limit loss. To those who have gone before me - whether if is 3 months or 10 years since your s.o.’s last episode with p - I have a question. Would you stay again and go through every emotion you went through? Would you leave again...

All: On week three following “The P Addiction” reared its ugly head again. Yes, I freaked out/flipped out the instant I found out. But after that - I have brought no drama to the table. He is working his program, He is answering any/all of my questions - many of the answers I never wanted to...

Sanity Check here fellow spouses… Day 10 - the worst day yet….These are the emotions I have felt and am feeling - 1. Embarrassed- My God…I am NO Puritan but I’m embarrassed for him and his problem 2. Disgusted - Hard for me to look at him - I can’t use any other word but disgust to describe...

Howdy folks. 55 year old gay man married to a porn/virtual sex addict. We’ve been together for 30 years. Married for 10. Outside looking in - perfect marriage, perfect farm, perfect executive careers, blah blah blah. We have not been intimate for over a decade. This was due to his “last problem”...