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Kaybee said:I recently went back to the bible camp I work at every summer. I worked in the kitchens for a week instead of counselling because I didn't feel I was in a good enough place with God, or really myself to be much support to the girls. I didn't know what to expect and didn't know why I was going but I felt like I was supposed to go. I actually got a lot out of it. It was our teen camp, so the speaker was focusing on the tough issues that she felt teens needed to hear about. She talked about being sexually abused by a guy her age when she was in high school, among other things. She also urged the teens to think about bad influences in their lives, like pornography. You can tell porn's becoming a serious problem when it becomes a topic of conversation among pastors and teens at a bible camp. I talked to the speaker about my past, and she prayed for me, and I was able to let go of the anger I'd been holding onto for 8 years and forgive the boy who hurt me in high school. He was just a young boy trying to figure things out, and he went about it the wrong way. I have no reason to believe that he grew up to be a sexual deviant. I also told her about the sex cams, which is something I've never confessed in person before - (I just let my friends read about it, and my fiance knew before hand.)
The biggest thing that happened though was when one of the male counselors stood up at campfire one night and talked about his own struggle with alcohol and pornography addiction. I thought it was so brave and so honest for him to confess not only to the teens, but also to the other adults working there. (Many of us are long time friends, but I had never heard that side of him before) I was so thankful that I got to be there to hear him say that to those kids, and to not be ashamed of it. It made me feel more confident in talking about my struggle with porn addiction. The whole experience was honestly exactly what I needed at the exact right moment.
For many, this is a time of extreme vulnerability. You were very brave to talk to others. I really enjoyed reading your story.
A couple of things I want to point out about your story that are huge positive markers -
You see this as a journey, not a destination. It is so important to view ourselves as incomplete and on a journey. We have something to look forward to and to seek. If everyone just grew to a point and stop, this whole living thing would be boring!
You owned your addiction, it didn't own you. I have to think that telling others, face to face is scary for that addiction - not you.
You recognize the struggle in others. It is humbling to be accepted with all our faults or to see how hard others struggle.
Great report!