Man, do I need to internalize this. I do happen to think porn is immoral, yes, but there are a lot of things I consider immoral that I don't have an obsessive/compulsive relationship with. I don't go through loops in my head trying to convince myself not to murder anyone. I'm not comparing the two as equals, just making the point that the morality of something doesn't have to inform how hard I fight against it in my mind. Accepting that it's something I struggle with, that it will intrude upon my thoughts from time to time, doesn't mean I have to go into panic mode to try and resist it. I think I freak out because I desire this freedom so bad, but it never comes. Freaking out about the immorality of it is doing me no favors right now and it was helpful to read this exchange.This !!
Good to see you, EW...! It is difficult to not moralize P, for me given my background, but it is possible and even necessary to be nonjudgmental, especially as this helps toward the mindful approach we want.
And to organically have P fade out is the natural way to do it, to literally outgrow our addiction.
Not energizing thoughts, urges, or decisions made toward P, which only serves to make these things 'sticky' and hard to shake, is key. If something arises, observe without responding for or against, and let it fade on its own, is how we change.
Wishing you well!