I need to up my game.

Escapeandnevercomeback

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When porn stops being an important part of your life, this is where the freedom starts. Better said, when you stop seeing porn as an important part of your life. Porn is not to be put on a pedestal, people have been handling their lives for thousands of years, why do we think we can't without porn? Read "Easy Peasy method".
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

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Also, read success stories that resonate with your situation. Do you see a guy talking about "This is how I used to be" and it sounds just like you, then "This is me now after 1 year without porn" and it sounds like what you want, read that and other posts like that and use it as motivation. Read it every day, the importance of drilling all this into your head every day cannot be underestimated. After reading a little bit, you might feel like: "I got it man, I know, I know what I want", but the addicted brain likes to "forget" everything and crave porn. It's a good way to remind yourself why you are doing this. Where you are now and where you want to get, mentally speaking. Porn affects mental health, once what's going on in your head gets better after staying away from porn, working on your life is easier.
 

Phineas 808

Respected Member
Congratulations on 20 days, brother! Get up and go again! Don't give the lapse more time than it deserves! Don't be angry at yourself, unless that motivates you. Be understanding of yourself and focus on the positives of these past 3 weeks.

You got this, and you will overcome this bitch!
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

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I appreciate the support and advice from everybody.

Day 0

As usual. I resisted 20 days and then I PMOed 4 times in 2 days plus a little too much edging... I wanted to keep it at only 1 PMO but I couldn't control it.
 

Orbiter

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I appreciate the support and advice from everybody.

Day 0

As usual. I resisted 20 days and then I PMOed 4 times in 2 days plus a little too much edging... I wanted to keep it at only 1 PMO but I couldn't control it.
Hey I know the feeling Escape. I just PMOed 3 times yesterday after 27 days clean.

Today i'm gonna get back on track with some morning meditation, daily exercise, music & getting stuff cleaned up around the house. Perhaps putting together a 'get back on track' routine yourself might act as a bit of an anchor against the chaser urges?

20 days is great! If you did it once, there's no reason you can't do it again. Now let's get back that day 20 starting today!
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

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Hey I know the feeling Escape. I just PMOed 3 times yesterday after 27 days clean.

Today i'm gonna get back on track with some morning meditation, daily exercise, music & getting stuff cleaned up around the house. Perhaps putting together a 'get back on track' routine yourself might act as a bit of an anchor against the chaser urges?

20 days is great! If you did it once, there's no reason you can't do it again. Now let's get back that day 20 starting today!
Bro, I'm tired of "Relapse/Restart". This could easily turn into a marathon for life. Go X number of days, relapse, start again and the wheel keeps spinning and taking with it my life. This year is almost over and if I don't save it (stay porn free until the end of the year) it will be another wasted year with this addiction.
 
I watched this video from the legendary Italian goalkeeper Gigi Buffon on his pwn personal fight against mental health/depression.

It's really inspiring stuff. Thought I'd share it with you guys.

 

Phineas 808

Respected Member
This year is almost over and if I don't save it (stay porn free until the end of the year) it will be another wasted year with this addiction.

You have the first half right: end the year well without the addiction. But the second half is wrong: that you'll have another wasted year with this addiciton.

Why? There's a difference this time, you're putting up a real fight, and you're beginning to string together lengthier streaks, which done often enough (bigger picture), will change the habit, make it unrecognizable, even ending it!

Porn addiction is like heroine. I'm not trying to disempower us, but to point out how hard this mother is to kick. If you're going to beat this thing, you have to get a different perspective, one that's far more positive and self-compassionate than the one you have now.

When we're lapsing, it's important to get a 'bigger picture' perspective, and don't lose the forest for the trees. Celebrate your 20+ days, get up, and beat that number! Beat this addiction, not yourself!

Again, how you identify yourself is extremely important here: this addiction is only a small part of your life, as there is so much more to you. Don't let this thing define you!
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Well-Known Member
You have the first half right: end the year well without the addiction. But the second half is wrong: that you'll have another wasted year with this addiciton.

Why? There's a difference this time, you're putting up a real fight, and you're beginning to string together lengthier streaks, which done often enough (bigger picture), will change the habit, make it unrecognizable, even ending it!

Porn addiction is like heroine. I'm not trying to disempower us, but to point out how hard this mother is to kick. If you're going to beat this thing, you have to get a different perspective, one that's far more positive and self-compassionate than the one you have now.

When we're lapsing, it's important to get a 'bigger picture' perspective, and don't lose the forest for the trees. Celebrate your 20+ days, get up, and beat that number! Beat this addiction, not yourself!

Again, how you identify yourself is extremely important here: this addiction is only a small part of your life, as there is so much more to you. Don't let this thing define you!
Okay, bro, you said it well. Thanks.
 
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