Hey Down Hill,
I'm glad you asked. I did a post a while back that kind of broached on this subject, at least in a holistic sense that can be found here,
https://forum.rebootnation.org/index.php?threads/21504/post-235680
So, carrying on that same thought, I would say not getting off for me is a way to focus my sexual energy, which is my greatest source of energy, and use that energy on my other pursuits and goals. Personally, I think the word "energy" is kind of cheesy, but that's all I have so that's what I'll use. I first read about this idea from a book called
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill in the chapter called
The Mystery of Sex Transmutation. This chapter can be found here
https://www.sacred-texts.com/nth/tgr/tgr16.htm. Now this chapter is pretty damn cheesy to be clear and I think Hill was an utter fraud to be honest, but the gist of the message is on point. Also I might add, all of Hill's information has been pulled from old and ancient traditions, tantra sex being an obviously example. The irony that that chapter can be found on a "sacred-text" website nearly made me shit my pants!
Needless to say, I do this once in a while, not because I believe in the spiritual aspects per se, but because I see results. When I have sex with my lady and don't get off, I feel a complete and utter high that porn could never match. Then, if I immediately go to work on my goals (with a boner I might add!) the energy I have is contagious and world conquering to be a little hyperbolic.
If you use this energy on your goals (the greatest energy known to man) nothing can get in your way. Of course, if you don't have partner at the moment, this still all applies, possibly even more so!
I mean just think about it, why are we all here at RN? Because all of us have abused this energy and have cast it away into a tissue to never be seen again! Think of the energy you get from looking at porn and trying to find that "perfect" shot for hours on end, that is this energy that I speak of. Just imagine what goals you could accomplish if you used that same energy and focus on your passion and goals? You would get amazing results! Our problem is not our sexual energy, our problem is how we've trained ourselves to use it over the years; this is where we've fucked up.
Thus, use your sex drive for good and not evil. Work on your goals while thinking of some crush you've had or currently have. Let's be honest, none of us guys do anything without thinking about how it will affect us with the ladies down the road if we become good at it. We all know this to be true, so let's embrace this beautiful fact and get moving with our lives!
The amount of hours I've wasted away using this energy for no good I will never get back again. But I have learned over the last 5 years to be better with my sex drive and use it (mostly) for good.
The day I met my lady walking down the street was a day I definitely used it for good. I remember it clearly, I spotted her just causally walking with her feminine grace and smiles and knew I had talk to her.
The beauty and grace of a woman will save us men, if only we would stop making love to our computers and start making love to them and our goals and passions.
I hope that helps Down Hill!
Best