ShadeTrenicin
Well-Known Member
Keep going friend!
In my case, the first few weeks were definitively the easiest. I was looking up a lot of information on the subject, and keeping the reason why I’m doing this fresh in mind. I was feeling great, more sociable and relaxed, it was easier to talk to people and hear what they were saying.Congratulations for your achievement! Almost 2 months!
In your opinion until now, which was your toughest period? (for me after 10 days become difficult...)
Thank you @downhillfromhere.Thank you Restless, that's good to hear. Sometimes I doubt that things are moving forward, but I have to keep the good things in mind. Things are shaping up.
Will definitely consider your advice about no MO as well... I have been thinking a bit about it. Also if you don't mind, I would appreciate it if you could share what difference you feel it makes in recovery.
I have to say that you make a very compelling argument here. I did abstain from MO the first couple of weeks after learning about porn addiction, and there was a significant change in me, socially, especially towards women.Thank you @downhillfromhere.
I'll try to explain my understanding towards that.
Personally I happened to know about Porn addiction like 10 years ago. Read articles on YBOP, etc... At that time when i tried to reboot i started exactly like you. No to P but M, O +.
As you know I couldn't succeed. Eventhough it helps rewiring & detachment of O from P, i consider there are significant pitfalls.
In my personal opinion, i consider M itself as an unnatural stimulus. Isn't it? Ejaculation should happen with/by a partner around.
If we don't need women to achieve an orgasm, why would we try to engage in a conversation with them? We simply avoid. Because deep down we don't need women for sexual gratification because we did M &O with or without P.
Abstaining from M, pushes you. When you feel real women are the only way to sex, we have no option but approach them. As you mentioned that you have anxiety, this will definitely help you to widen your capabilities.
You'll get that macho only with PMO abstinence.
On my personal side, if it helps, i think I'm able to make a conversation with women easily when I'm completely abstinent. It's the confidence that makes difference. It doesn't matter whether flirting / romantic/ casual. I'm a socially inept person as well. But, PMO abstinence makes the situations less scary, gives 'let's face it' kinda attitude.
Finally there's no harm in trying. Give it a try and feel for yourselves.
Thumbs Up. Keep Posting. Eager to hear the progress. On a side note, you have fantastic writing skills. You should write a story or something.I have to say that you make a very compelling argument here. I did abstain from MO the first couple of weeks after learning about porn addiction, and there was a significant change in me, socially, especially towards women.
It was like I was less afraid, listening more and being able to respond more naturally. I have been thinking about that, wondering if it was a coincidence or simply linked to stopping PMO. But there is a chance that change came from stopping MO as well.
It makes a lot of sense to me. And I have to say that engaging in MO on my own doesn’t really give me much value on its’ own. I mean I’m imagining being with a woman, but I would so much rather actually be with someone for real. That’s a big part of why I’m doing this in the first place.
I’m going to try it, see if I can do without that release for a while. Thanks for the suggestion!
Thumbs Up. Keep Posting. Eager to hear the progress. On a side note, you have fantastic writing skills. You should write a story or something.