GBS, this makes me sad on so many levels. I first started posting many years ago to understand my situation with my husband as we walked our path through porn addiction. I conversed with men (no women at all at the beginning) and I understood better. I spoke with them about how I reacted and why and it got me through. But, I had so many things going on mentally just dealing that I stayed on this board to help. My goal was find a way through so marriages don’t become “break love”. To see any marriage on shaky ground as a result of porn hurts my heart. It takes work on both sides to come out of this as a couple. Each and every walk is different. The common denominator is the pain, for both, and the scrambled brain, for both. I truly hope the outcome is Make Love and not Break Love.