great mini discussion here. i think men and women process fantasy inherently differently. men will fantasize and would often act on that fantasy whether by trying to actually have a physical affair, or, in our cases, acting out through masturbation/orgasm with or without porn. conversely a woman may find a man interesting or attractive but i think would be much less likely to feel the need for some sort of release or pursue something. again i could be wrong but i definitely think men including myself often turn to porn as a way to alleviate sexual frustration when it comes to a fantasy or an encounter with some woman that he would love to be with sexually but cannot for whatever reason.
totally agree with
@GBS about the blue balls and mental. it is the brain wanting to push for that release. going without sexual release often, as we here on the reboot are doing, makes the feeling of wanting that release very very powerful. and boy it can be hard to resist...
i know this because i struggle with fantasy a lot. especially as i am abstinent/hard mode too, my brain veers into fantasy land often about a couple co-workers who in my brain can fulfill any and every sexual fantasy that i want. never mind the fact that i have no idea what they would really be like in that situation. but its all my brain telling me that that's what i want.