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GBS, thank you for understanding. It was so difficult to discover what had been going on with my husband, what he was doing. As hard as it was, I still maintain that the secret being out is better. The reason being having two to deal with the issue lightens the load. It makes it easier to...

it is good to be rid of the hid part. And while I know there are some here that say their wife knew, for the most part we do not. For myself, it became what else is he hiding. My mind went every where. Not just obvious, other woman etc. but to finances etc. So being out and if necessary...

This is great news! May she continue to enjoy touch! HaHa Boeing!

Well I missed the big day for you! But congrats on 701! I most appreciate your dedication to the healing of you and your wife and your marriage. It is a difficult walk. It takes a great deal of understanding on all sides. Stay true to yourself and your goals as you walk your life’s walk...

I am so sorry to hear this. Please know I am praying for you. May you have strength at this time.

I have been here since the beginning trying to help partners go through their journey. Partners have helped others with their stories and their recovery for themselves. Some amazing women and men have posted on the pages here. I have often hoped they have been able to live their best lives. I am...

Sending prayers and thoughts your way. it is always hard to lose a parent. Take care of yourself.

I am so sorry to hear this. I hate when porn claims another marriage or relationship. It can be worked through. Perhaps things will change for the better for you. I hope so!

How has your communication been since you stopped using? After the last chance she gave you, did the two of you come up with a plan to re-establish trust and connection? When my husband used, he was not connected to me and our sons the way he was prior. He became emotionally unavailable. An...

Good for you! All this time we have been here, holdovers from the original seeing each other check out for while and pop in with a celebration! So happy to share your accomplishments!🎉🥳🎉🥳🎉🥳⭐️🎂🍪

Wow, this is tough. The one thing I learned as my husband and I healed is that I had to work to bring about change In our relationship. It took both of us learning or should I say relearning how to just talk. And some days for me was I made through 1 day. And it was hard. But we made it...

Great to hear you have talked! Perhaps her no inclination could have a physical reason and not necessarily a trauma response. She could be depressed or on medication for that and both zap sexual thoughts. And I know for a lot of women the thought we married our ”one and only” makes the...

GBS, this makes me sad on so many levels. I first started posting many years ago to understand my situation with my husband as we walked our path through porn addiction. I conversed with men (no women at all at the beginning) and I understood better. I spoke with them about how I reacted and...

Brings to mind the song Be Yourself by Audioslave, sung by Chris Cornell. Give it a listen.

Jlied I didn’t mean it as defensive. Simply explaining what it was a victory. I get a glance, I think we all do. But this was not that. And even he knew it wasn’t. A hard thing for most partners is the “they want something/one else”. Especially when they have a type that is glanced at and/or...

Jlied, It was a victory because I did not go down the rabbit hole. Which sometimes happens. I was able to keep my struggle internal. A victory also that he did not say that I was mistaken and took ownership. It was not a glance, he was tracking her. I do know the difference.

Could the two of you do a compilation sort of a recipe for a marriage. Talk about the ingredients and how they work and the outcomes. Some times working on small things helps.

Hey supportive wife, good to see you here.. We have been through trauma when dealing with being the SO of a porn addict. And there are times we are triggered or like mine he looked followed with eyes I said well go follow he said I know I did it I don’t know why. We did have a day of sharing...

The other day my husband and were eating breakfast and I had showed him something on my phone and he was looking at me when he locked on to a woman walking out of the restaurant. I said in the same conversationAl tone I had been using, “Why don’t you just follow her out of the restaurant?” He...

I am so sorry to hear your mother in law passed. The mom is a tough one to lose. I hope that this will help her see you there for her and can help her through this time. You are in my thoughts and prayers.