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squid said:Made it to the beach, super excited to see the ocean again and feel the sand. There's nothing better
Of course. Squid belongs to the ocean.
Icandoit said:squid said:Made it to the beach, super excited to see the ocean again and feel the sand. There's nothing better
Of course. Squid belongs to the ocean.
Haha you're right about that! It's been an awesome trip and I'm feeling very good. On Tuesday is my one year anniversary of leaving pmo. Besides that one slip up a few weeks ago it's been an amazing clean journey and my life has improved dramatically. Dang guys, I fell in love and am very fulfilled in my relationship. It's amazing. Never give up hope, a few better decisions and a better life is born.
For my one year I'm going to do some volunteering. Give back and be grateful.
Thanks for all your support,
squid
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Great, man! 1 year! This is awesome. An example of dedication.
Sitting on the beach feeling gratitude. Decided not to volunteer Tuesday because I forgot I need to quarentine after being at the beach but I'll find some way to celebrate. Maybe dinner with my gf. It's been a great week at the beach and an unexpected thing happened where my sleep cycle actually is in a great place. Been going to been around 11 and waking up around 7:30 and having good energy all day. Really want to keep that good habit up.
Had a bit of temptation today where I pulled up a news video but I stopped and turned it off and then got out of the house and went to the beach and now I feel much better.
Excited to study some Korean now and to get back on the job hunt this upcoming week. Had some great leads but they all didn't work out so that sucks. Have a great weekend everyone.
squid
Had a bit of temptation today where I pulled up a news video but I stopped and turned it off and then got out of the house and went to the beach and now I feel much better.
Excited to study some Korean now and to get back on the job hunt this upcoming week. Had some great leads but they all didn't work out so that sucks. Have a great weekend everyone.
squid
Happy one year anniversary of no pmo to me! It's been super solid except for one slip up to stills a month ago. But I'm proud of not letting that get me off track. Celebrated with my girlfriend and told her about the slip up last week. She's very happy for me and we are very happy together. It's been a good year.
Squid
Squid
A year, congratulations! Your results are inspiring and your life seems genuinly good. The squid and ocean joke that Icandoit made keeps making me laugh. Any views or comments after a year of being without PMO? I'm now 1/6th of your journey so it's good to have something to look forward to.
Keep on going, really nice to read!
Keep on going, really nice to read!
Hey Sanders absolutely! A year ago I had only had one sexual experience and it didn't go very well. I had difficulty getting and staying hard and I was single. I had my goals of running and learning Korean but wasn't making much progress. Today things have dramatically improved in all areas. I am running further than I ever have, and I am studying more consistently than ever before. The biggest difference though has been in my love life.
I was pmo free for about four months when I met my girlfriend. Before becoming pmo free, I didn't have the energy or presence of mind to date well or to be in a relationship. Becoming pmo free also makes you very attractive too because most women don't like porn either.
I guess the biggest benefit is peace of mind. Of living in a way that I feel is right. My character is stronger, I sleep way better. I'm more fit, and I'm much more pleasant to be around.
Stay free my friends,
squid
I was pmo free for about four months when I met my girlfriend. Before becoming pmo free, I didn't have the energy or presence of mind to date well or to be in a relationship. Becoming pmo free also makes you very attractive too because most women don't like porn either.
I guess the biggest benefit is peace of mind. Of living in a way that I feel is right. My character is stronger, I sleep way better. I'm more fit, and I'm much more pleasant to be around.
Stay free my friends,
squid
I'm having a great weekend. I've been feeling weirdly super tired so I think I'm fighting off an illness but I've spent a bunch of good time with my gf, running, and studying. Hope everyone else is doing well too. This next week I want to focus more on applying to jobs.
squid
squid
Been struggling again with binging videogames and feeling depressed when I'm alone. It's been a reoccurring theme that playing all day makes me feel terrible and makes it hard to do the things I need to do. In other words, I feel like I've grown out of playing games in that way and it no longer fits with who I am inside.
I've tried a few times before to stop this habit or to do less of it, but it hasn't stuck yet. I'm taking a new approach this time.
My plan is to replace the gaming with some new habits and not deviate from them for 21 days.
Each morning I will go for a walk down the hill near my house before I do anything else. The walk only takes 10 minutes but I can go longer if I feel up to it.
That's it for this week's new habit. We'll see how it goes.
squid
I've tried a few times before to stop this habit or to do less of it, but it hasn't stuck yet. I'm taking a new approach this time.
My plan is to replace the gaming with some new habits and not deviate from them for 21 days.
Each morning I will go for a walk down the hill near my house before I do anything else. The walk only takes 10 minutes but I can go longer if I feel up to it.
That's it for this week's new habit. We'll see how it goes.
squid
Hey squid,
In response to your post about having a problem bingeing video games, I think a lot of us have been there before. I had some success by completely cutting myself off, not giving myself the option to play games. There's a few ways you can do this, you might have to be creative. Successfully done, this can be difficult because you need other ways to fill that new excess of time. Having a system is key, sometimes willpower isn't enough. I think this is the same logic as using blockers to remove access to porn. If you're using a console to play games, perhaps you could try having a friend or a family member hold onto it for a bit while you take it easy. Same could be said for giving away your computer for a little bit if that's the main culprit, but obviously that comes with some extra implications.
One often quoted maxim of habit building and habit destroying is "you don't rise to the level of your willpower, but fall to the level of your systems". That is to say if you cut yourself off from access, you're much more likely to succeed than relying on your willpower alone. Of course if you just want to cut down a few hours a day, you probably shouldn't give away your game system
Cheers buddy! I'm wishing you luck in finding other healthy ways to spend your time
In response to your post about having a problem bingeing video games, I think a lot of us have been there before. I had some success by completely cutting myself off, not giving myself the option to play games. There's a few ways you can do this, you might have to be creative. Successfully done, this can be difficult because you need other ways to fill that new excess of time. Having a system is key, sometimes willpower isn't enough. I think this is the same logic as using blockers to remove access to porn. If you're using a console to play games, perhaps you could try having a friend or a family member hold onto it for a bit while you take it easy. Same could be said for giving away your computer for a little bit if that's the main culprit, but obviously that comes with some extra implications.
One often quoted maxim of habit building and habit destroying is "you don't rise to the level of your willpower, but fall to the level of your systems". That is to say if you cut yourself off from access, you're much more likely to succeed than relying on your willpower alone. Of course if you just want to cut down a few hours a day, you probably shouldn't give away your game system
Cheers buddy! I'm wishing you luck in finding other healthy ways to spend your time
Thanks ice! Yeah I'm learning that my problem with binging gaming/solo digital entertainment is not so much in the activity itself but in how it keeps me distracted from things that matter to me. I uninstalled the game that gets me the most often and today was my first day not playing.
Because I had that time, my day was amazing. I had space in my brain to think and I came up with some fun things. I did my ten minute walk and that turned into a walk to the grocery store. My girlfriend saw I was up and we chatted on the phone while I was shopping which was fun. I did a bunch of work on my blog and on job applications. I did a kettlebell workout plus some pt and core exercises, listened to some of an audiobook, did some scrapbooking, talked to two family members on the phone, and went shopping again for some things the other store didn't have.
Haha what a great day! And it wasn't overwhelming, I took it one step at a time. I made a small list but was flexible about it and got it all done.
Conclusion: by not automatically following this old habit of gaming my mind and my time were freed up to make different choices. Choices that actually fit with who I am now way better than the old gaming habit I've had since middle school. I feel great.
squid
Because I had that time, my day was amazing. I had space in my brain to think and I came up with some fun things. I did my ten minute walk and that turned into a walk to the grocery store. My girlfriend saw I was up and we chatted on the phone while I was shopping which was fun. I did a bunch of work on my blog and on job applications. I did a kettlebell workout plus some pt and core exercises, listened to some of an audiobook, did some scrapbooking, talked to two family members on the phone, and went shopping again for some things the other store didn't have.
Haha what a great day! And it wasn't overwhelming, I took it one step at a time. I made a small list but was flexible about it and got it all done.
Conclusion: by not automatically following this old habit of gaming my mind and my time were freed up to make different choices. Choices that actually fit with who I am now way better than the old gaming habit I've had since middle school. I feel great.
squid
Hi squid,
Just spent the last hour going through your journal. It was the most enjoyable thing I have read in a long time. The ups and downs, I was rooting for you. And when you got your girlfriend and the way you expressed happiness, all I can say is I hope at the end of my journey I can have that kind of relationship. I'm 35 days in.
Thanks for writing all this. It is comforting.
Just spent the last hour going through your journal. It was the most enjoyable thing I have read in a long time. The ups and downs, I was rooting for you. And when you got your girlfriend and the way you expressed happiness, all I can say is I hope at the end of my journey I can have that kind of relationship. I'm 35 days in.
Thanks for writing all this. It is comforting.
hopeful2 said:
Hey Hopeful!
Thanks for the kind words, it's been a journey for sure but I'm so glad I went through it. And very glad I was well on my way before I even met my girlfriend. I never wanted to be in the situation where a gf finds out about an out of control habit like pmo that I was keeping secret.
As you complete your reboot and become pmo free and also take those skills into other parts of your life. As you decide what you do and don't want in your life and use discipline to achieve your goals, you will become an incredibly attractive person. Because you'll become powerful and rare. It's a hard journey but a valuable one for sure.
I'd say around the 70-90 day mark is a good time to start going on some dates if you are feeling good and non flatlining. It took me months of a lot of first and second dates before I found my gf. Be selective. Best of luck!
m'd today to a youtube video. I'd just come back from visiting my family. I played some overwatch with my friend and some other ges for the first time in a week and then we said goodbye around 11:30 and it was good. But I stayed up until 3 playing by myself and felt kind of weird and wired and I got triggered by having to go to the bathroom and then looked up a light youtube video. I debated in my head a while before m'ing. But at the end of the day, it was late, I was tired and I just did it. Sometimes it just sneaks up. I feel like it was a purposeful self sabotage. I am just starting to see some success in my projects and I think the success scares me.
I don't consider this pmo. But it could certainly lead there. I will say though it was even less intense than my slip a few months ago. This time, it was a fully clothed video. So that's good I guess.
But self sabotaging is not the answer. My response is to be more passionate and lean in more and to make better art.
squid
I don't consider this pmo. But it could certainly lead there. I will say though it was even less intense than my slip a few months ago. This time, it was a fully clothed video. So that's good I guess.
But self sabotaging is not the answer. My response is to be more passionate and lean in more and to make better art.
squid