This is Part 2 of my big important post, concerning the present and future.
I've been edging on and off for the past two weeks (with increasing frequency/duration). Yesterday I read that edging, even to my own fantasies, is incredibly detrimental. I was shocked and it gave me an anxiety spike.
This compounded with the last week of poor mental health and it led to be M'ing about 40 minutes ago. I was edging as per usual and I crossed the threshold and... that's all she wrote.
The strangest thing however is that it didn't feel enjoyable at all. In fact, instead of being discouraged I was empowered.
Going by a timeline from a website (https://www.antidopamine.com/stop-porn/daily-timeline/), the author's opinion is that a relapse on NoFap is only truly a relapse when you M multiple days in a row (the chaser effect).
So I've made a deal with myself. Right now it's Monday August 31st, approx 11:00 AM. If I can make it to Friday September 4th 9:00 PM (when I usually write in my journal) without M'ing or edging at ALL, I will not reset my nofap counter.
Reasoning? Because an alcoholic isn't an alcoholic if he drinks every 55 days. This is about addiction. It is about self control. I refuse to punish myself for a singular moment of weakness.
The last time I M'd, it was after 3 weeks of NoFap. I spent 3 days M'ing due to the chaser effect. I've now set a challenge that exceeds this.
So long as I avoid M and edging for the next 5 days, I will resume my counter as if nothing happened. This is the real test of self control - if I can overcome the chaser effect and maintain the process.
I won't post until Friday. Wish me luck friends and may you find strength in your journeys. I leave you with a personal mantra of mine.
"It's good to remember the difference between stopping and quitting. This helps me when I'm feeling a bit lost or down on myself. If you've ever strayed from what you feel you were supposed to do or who you were supposed to be - remember that everyone has to stop. Whatever it is we're doing, whatever our grand ambitions are in life, we stop. We have to stop. We have to take a piss, or go to bed, or go on vacation, or we have a kid and not have much time to ourselves etc. But quitting is stopping without ever beginning again. So as long as you're here, as long as you're alive and pulling air through your lungs, you can begin again. And if you begin again, then you haven't quit. So begin again!"